"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How do you guys deal with needy girls?

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I just started talking to this girl and she won't stop texting me. It is really annoying. The first few times was okay, but then it got old after that. I told her I wanted to talk on the phone instead of texting and I scheduled a date with her and told her I'd get back with her the day before to let her know if it is still on.

She has sent me four texts since then and I haven't responded to any of them. The past two nights she has sent me a "good night" text. She is a cute girl and has stated a few times that she is really shy. We have never even kissed yet. I just know her through mutual friends.

Is there a nice way of telling her that you don't like talking or texting on the phone?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Just tell her that you don't like being on the phone that much and don't like texting. Make sure you let her know that goes for everyone not just her. If she still insists, just ignore her texts and calls until she either gets the point or she leaves.

I use to disable my text messaging so that it was a non-issue.
 
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Yeah, i agree, you just need to tell her that you are not big on texting and talking on the phone, and its just the way you are, nothing personal. What the hell, tel her you find her level of contact intense and would prefer quality rather than quantity... it might work.
 
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WORKEROUTER said:
Just tell her that you don't like being on the phone that much and don't like texting. Make sure you let her know that goes for everyone not just her.
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This is what I do and it works just fine. It's honest, it makes sense, and she'll see that that's what kind of person you are when you hang out with her (I don't answer calls when I'm having a conversation with someone unless I'm expecting it.) Even if she texts a lot, answer with enthusiasm but infrequently. She'll lock into your pace.
 
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Are you dating a young girl? I notice that this problem seem to lie in the young and inexperienced people.

You seem to be in the budding stage so I thought it was rather normal she would have acted this way.

Yep tell her nicely, or wait for this behavior to go away because it will go away sooner or later. I can't tell you how long to wait though.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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