How do you guys deal with loneliness?

[jebach123]

Not just loneliness but just having so much going on emotionally,that empty feeling. Not depression,not anxiety far from that but just being lonely,sad,overwhelmed and having nobody to talk to about it and just let go.

 

[BraddH]

Part of life. Accept it and know that opposites completes each other. Without night there is no day, without loneliness you wont feel the opposite of it.

So love and hate are just two sides of the same coin. The people who hates women, deep down loves them very much,

Appreciate the negative sides of life too and you become much more blissful.

 

[CuddleJunkie]

Become part of a variety of different social circles, hell, you can even create your own. You will have plans all the week long if you do this, not to mention the 100s of the girls that you will be introduced to. I used to feel lonely, now I have so many social circles I can't keep up to date with everything going on. This is a good thing though, it makes me more valuable in each one. Also, we talk about having a VISION. We talk about this for a good reason, not only it will increase your value by the thousands, it will keep you focused and busy!

 

[Desdinova]

Get yourself a pet. It's less lonely when you've got something alive to talk to.

 

[RangerMIke]

Best way to fight loneliness is to just not be alone. Go find things to do with other people... yoga, dance classes, art school.... just find something you like to do, with human contact, and get involved.

 

[jebach123]

i moved to new country six months ago im still learning language and just... lonely ****

 

[CuddleJunkie]

i moved to new country six months ago im still learning language and just... lonely ****

Find some language exchange places, there are cafés and college associations that do this. You will find english-speaking friends.

 

[Poon King]

It will pass.

Just stay focused on your goals and on constant self improvement. The more you improve the more useful you are to others. The more useful you are to others the more people will want you around.

Feeling empty has more to do with not having a purpose. So find a purpose and focus on it.

All humans experience occasional periods of sadness or feeling down. When it happens to me I just accept it and wait for it to pass because I know it will. Its 100% natural to not be happy 24/7. People are not biologically designed to be happy 24/7 unless their on drugs. So don't expect to always be happy. Change is constant in life. Just keep it moving and don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself.

 

[skinnyguy]

Really vigorous exercise helps. And if you go to the gym you're around other people.

Being goal oriented is really huge. If your goal is to make millions you won't even think about social anxiety and loneliness.

It does take a lot of work to get out of a rut but it's worth it. I've been in a rut for about two years, just haven't been happy even though I'm really doing well at work and pretty healthy. I know I need to make drastic changes to my lifestyle but it is a risk I'm willing to take.

 

[Vivacity]

If you have nothing to do to occupy yourself, INTERNET is your last recourse, my friend. There is a wealth of information to read and knowledge to gain, movies to watch, and music to listen to, da da da, all free of cost, online.

You need billion lives, not just one life, to complete going through what is there online. You still complain that you are lonely? Knowledge is power. You can be powerful by spending your time on internet, if you do it in a proper way.

Google, Yahoo, Facebook, Twitter, etc., do these rich guys/companies exist without internet?

 

[Serenity]

Why do you feel a need to bother others with your problems which they probably have zero interest in? Why is it so bad being alone?

I'll name one suspect: social pressures.
I'll name one solution: fvck it!

 

[Good Gao]

Man, social life has to become the center of discussion now in a lot of places, especially for guys after college who don't have the opportunities that college provides with classes and being around many others your age.

 

[Good Gao]

It will pass.

Just stay focused on your goals and on constant self improvement. The more you improve the more useful you are to others. The more useful you are to others the more people will want you around.

Feeling empty has more to do with not having a purpose. So find a purpose and focus on it.

All humans experience occasional periods of sadness or feeling down. When it happens to me I just accept it and wait for it to pass because I know it will. Its 100% natural to not be happy 24/7. People are not biologically designed to be happy 24/7 unless their on drugs. So don't expect to always be happy. Change is constant in life. Just keep it moving and don't sit around feeling sorry for yourself.

This guy has been on FIRE lately, everyone should pay attention to his posts!

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Read, good music, and podcasts. Make at least one good friend.

 

[BlueAlpha1]

Travel. Stay in youth hostels where other single travelers congregate. Became a passion of mine, and it's good if you're on a budget.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Go volunteer for an animal welfare charity. You can meet a lot of women that way.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I always played video games, watched TV, played sports, or read fiction books to keep my mind off of it (fiction in general makes you feel like you are inside the actual story sometimes and can make you feel less lonely because of that). Or I slept. But that only happened to me when I was really young and when me and my friends would have to part way for the day after having so much fun, or if I watched a REALLY good movie or read a REALLY great book. But now I don't ever get that way anymore. Maybe it's because I'm busy. You should be busy too. Always ask yourself this question:

"What is the most important thing in the world that I could be doing right now?"

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

I'm an introvert so being alone for a few weeks doesn't bother me. I moved to a new city for a job and had no family or friends within a 50 mile radius. Try inviting a coworker to hangout, go to church, or join a meetup group. If you like sports there are meetup groups where you can watch football with strangers and make new friends. If all else fails get a Wii U.

 

[foreverAFC]

i use lots of internet porn, weight lifting and substance abuse to deal with it

 

[JohnChops]

i use lots of internet porn, weight lifting and substance abuse to deal with it

Sounds like you're perpetuating the problem.