“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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how do you guys cope with stress at work ?

picard

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how do you guys cope with stress at work ?

I do exercise on the weekend but I still feel dead tired coming home from work. my chest feels compressed in a vice.

I worry about every little mistake that I might make at work. I clench my jaws unconsciously.

I get anxious all the time at work.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I'm not sure what you do for work, but I can relate to being really tired after my shift. Are you new at your job?

I work 12, sometimes 16 hour shifts in the fast-paced life and death world of critical care... out pt's are the sickest in the hospital and many are unstable. One small mistake could kill someone. Im' usually pretty bagged after a shift, but I still manage to get to the gym depending on whether I need to train that day or not.

I don't typically take any stimulants prior to work as they make my hands shake. I do however, take a multi, b-complex, EFAs, and anti-oxidants almost religiously. This combined w/ a reasonably healthy diet helps me deal w/ stress.

Working out, sex and doing things that chill me out are the strategies I use to cope w/ stress, (this includes work-related stuff).

I use several pre-workout strategies to amp myself up so that I am at least somewhat ready to lift. Going to the gym is a bit like going to war... you gotta be prepared or you'll lose. Here's what I do:

1. Make sure I'm properly hydrate (750-1000 cc of water pre-WO)
2. Pre WO meal (2 hours before lifting: light protein and some carbs. Ex: Egg whites/shake w/ some fruit)
3. Pre WO multi-vitamin and heavy dose B-complex supplement.
4. Pre WO stimulant (typically methyl-xanthine based)
5. Pre WO metabolic support (arginine esters, creatine esters, etc)
6. Pre WO anti-oxidants.

Sleep is also really really important to help reduce stress. So in short, stress relief is done by combining a healthy diet w/ prudent supplementation, optimal and varied physical activity, regular sex, emotional/spiritual fulfillment, and of course adequate sleep/rest.

Just my 2 cents...
 

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I feel my life seems to be bland. I don't know what of change I need in my life.

I am still clueless.
 

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How I cope? Sugar and caffeine.

Ruins the diet, but I like my job, so that's a big plus. Deadlines and all, but at the end of the day the research we're doing is pretty damn cool.

How to avoid worrying about mistakes? Peer review (extra pair of eyes to look at your stuff, and you doing the same for others), plus accepting that what you do is usually what you do as best you can with the time you have. Strive to do better all the time, but don't beat yourself up, because mistakes will happen. Unless you're a surgeon or air traffic controller, it's not going to immediately kill someone.

Maybe the researcher world is different though, we make hypotheses that get proved wrong all the time and simply try to make sense out of a big mess, so we accept a certain degree of failure as inevitable.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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