how do you go from talking to hooking up

[dj ben2]

long story short because im tired now

i was at a party on the weekend and got talking to this girl that was there now everything was going great we were talking about all sorts of **** drugs,partys, going out lots of stuff now i knew she was into me and i was into her aswell (keep in mind im very new to all this stuff , im 16) i just simply didnt know when or if i should kiss her it was the classic case of being scared of rejection but i could tell she was into me she kept adjusting her bra all the time and doing things like that. i had no problem getting her number and i found out the next day form mates she wanted to hook up and said she would "go me".

now my question is how do you know when you should go in for the kiss i just dont know i know it sounds pathetic but i was brought up by my mum and she imprinted all sorts of flase **** into my mind about women which i didnt realise was just not going to work until a few years ago

 

[squirrels]

If you're using "kino" (physical contact, touching) to warm her up, then the kiss should be part of the natural progression. You know, a hand on the arm, arm around her waist, let her sit on your lap...

 

[eko]

i think it's better to not hook up with a girl the first night you meet her. you might want to but try not to do it. I mean drunk hookups are fun but nothing good usually comes out of them, of course unless ur just looking for a hook up. Girls that will do this are usually sluts and guys that do it are, you guessed it, man sluts. Get to know her first and use a bit of that good 'ol mystery or whatever and hopefully you'll have something a bit more lasting.

 

[squirrels]

i think it's better to not hook up with a girl the first night you meet her. you might want to but try not to do it. I mean drunk hookups are fun but nothing good usually comes out of them, of course unless ur just looking for a hook up. Girls that will do this are usually sluts and guys that do it are, you guessed it, man sluts. Get to know her first and use a bit of that good 'ol mystery or whatever and hopefully you'll have something a bit more lasting.

And you are qualified to issue moral judgements against others because...

 

[Lust]

i think it's better to not hook up with a girl the first night you meet her. you might want to but try not to do it. I mean drunk hookups are fun but nothing good usually comes out of them, of course unless ur just looking for a hook up. Girls that will do this are usually sluts and guys that do it are, you guessed it, man sluts. Get to know her first and use a bit of that good 'ol mystery or whatever and hopefully you'll have something a bit more lasting.

Amateur Hour.

Fark, so many of you guys post advice that are just sh!t out of your asses. I'm so sick of guys posting false advice without at least reading the bible or something first.

All you need to do, is hook, and hook hard and thats enough to get a root for you.

It IS possible to screw a chick the night you met her and still be awesome friends/fvck buddies afterwards.

 

[LittleBigOne]

First of all, you should not care about kissing her yes or no. If you just wanne kiss and nothing else the fear of rejection must be low.
Next time you see her start talk 'normal' things, use slightly kino and start to talk about feelings. Not yours, her feelings. Do not tell too much about yourself. Make her feel excited by asking her about positive experiences she went through. And certain moment you bring the sex subject up, ofcourse when you notice she is in an excited state. All this should not take too long, 10-20 minutes or so? Good luck.

 

[KnockoutJM]

start kino, make her smile a few times to make sure shes warmed up, and just get in close.. kiss her on the neck and pull back.. see what she does from there.
after that go in for it if she is showing positive IOIs.. Otherwise you can just assume shes into you and go for it.

 

[izza]

I have a lot of trouble going for the kiss as well.

First, never force it. The kiss should always feel natural, comfortable, like a natural extension of the things you're already doing.

I always have the girl

1.) Express interest in me. (I ask: "I like you. Do you like me?" (big grin))
2.) Touch me (I say, my hands are too soft, it pisses me off (it does!). Feel that)
3.) Give me a massage.

By that time, I dunno, either you're making out, or no advice can help you. If the latter is the case, work on your personal issues involving touch. Hug your friends and family more regularly, and become WAY more comfortable with that.

 

[dj ben2]

cheers guys thanks for the advice will take note