How do you go from friends to dating? (not the regular friendzone situation)

[the_govner]

I don't have a problem with women in general, going from nothing to dating has been quite good for me.

However, I've known this one girl for awhile pre-dj and she's been a fairly good friend. Not very close, but we hang out maybe once every couple months and chat every now and then.

She knows I date a lot and I know that she sees me as a friend.

Any ideas as to how I ask her out on a date? The words to use? Don't want to be coming off as if I realized that we should be more than friends. I just want to date her and see if it goes well, nothing is certain.

 

[Iceberg]

I don't know that you can "ask her out on a date".

At best, you guys can hang out together for a night on the town, have a few drinks, and try to escalate to something physical.

Something has to actually happen for her to change her perception of you as a friend. I don't think you can talk your way into it.

If what you're saying is true, and you guys are not-so-close friends, then maybe you have a chance.

 

[zekko]

At best, you guys can hang out together for a night on the town, have a few drinks, and try to escalate to something physical.

I think that's the best strategy (although you aren't clear on whether you've actually been out alone with her before or as part of a group).
Just get her to hang out with you as usual, then try to escalate, kino, try to get a kiss, etc.

She may give resistance at first, and that's okay! She may need time to get used to the idea of seeing you in a different light. Just back off awhile then start again. She's either going to have to change her mindset about you or reject you completely.

 

[the_govner]

Okay this is good stuff, thanks guys.

 

[mojo16]

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