I read some topics on this but I think I need some live help. I've never had a successful cold approach cept for once, and I was very drunk. I'm going to the mall, I mean I might have a clever opener, then what??! If anyone can help me out maybe write out a nice description of how it's done then i'd be so grateful!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
How do you go about cold approaching
- Thread starter Bawb14
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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have a default opener that u'll use so that you won't have an excuse to chicken out of sets by saying that u didnt know what to say. i like to use "i think you're cute so i thought i'd come over and say hi." after that, just improvise and make conversation. that's how you get better. that is all you need to know lol
Cold approaches are kinda easy when you work a little on them. First off it helps if you dont see them as approaches. The word approach as well as "date" put alot of pressure on the person.
You gotta remember that women are as self conscious as you are, it not more. They love to be approached by a nice man, makes them feel pretty and attractive
Finding a good topic is really easy if you're in the right mood. If you're playful, happy and all that you'll find topic after topic. If you think "Omg, think of something to say" Then you wont find a single thing to talk about.
First off, say you're in a mall. Try to find something to talk about from the surrounding area. If she's looking at shoes in a shoe store there's loads of stuff you can do.
- Pick out the most outrageous and bizarre looking shoes and walk to her and say "Hey, sorry to interrupt I just thought you'd look great in these *smile*". Or maybe "Hey, not to be a bother but your shoe laces are untied." or why not "Did you know super man recommend those shoes?". Well it doesnt really matter what you introduce with just as long as you are open and friendly.
So for example:
Me: "Hey... not to be a bother but your shoe laces are untied... just so you know *smile*"
She: *looks down* "What are you talking about. I dont have any shoe laces?"
Me: "Ye, sorry im just messing with ya. The real reason im here is because I saw you and I thought I'd give you a chance to get to know me, you know. "
She: "Is that right?"
Me: "Ye sure, its not easy for you girls to just walk up to any cute guy you'd want to meet so I'd thought I'd save you the hassle."
She: "You sure got us there." *roll eyes to tease*
Me: "So, seems you're looking for a pair of shoes. Mayor party this weekend eh?"
She: "Ye, we're going to adsad city next weekend to watch the concert. DKF are playing and we've been waiting forever for them to come here."
Me: "DKF? Ye, they made the song FEKJW right? Heard they're pretty good."
She: "Ye, they're great!"
Me: "Im Lifeforce btw, nice to meet you"
She: "Im Cindy"
She2: Im Sarah"
Me: "Cindy and Sarah, thats great. I just gotta ask, why would you need new shoes to a concert?"
She: "No we dont. But we're going to the private party after the concert. There's gonna be alot of famous people there."
Me: "Private party? Man how you got tickets to that?"
She: "My father knows the owner of the hotel where they are going to have the party so he managed to get us the tickets. Jealous? *Smile*"
Me: "A little, sounds like its gonna be a blast, hope you remember that on fathers day next time."
She: "Im sure I will"
Me: "You know what, I saw this really cosy café over there. How about you tag along for a cup of coffee with the handsome stranger you just met and get back to getting those shoes a little later.
She: "Oh I dont know, we need to get home kinda early"
Me: "Well tell you what, give me your number and I'll take you out sometime, it'll be great. You know, walking, drinking coffee, eating muffins, making out... hm nevermind the last, dont wanna get your hopes up. So what you say?"
She: "Hmm, well I guess its ok."
Me: "cool, gimme your number and I'll give you a call"
She: "0462 23572341"
Me: "0464 23572341"?
She: No "0462 23572341"
Me: Oh great, cya around then. Good luck finding the shoes. And you too Sarah.
She: Bye!
She2: bye!
First off this is NOT a RL example because quite honestly I dont really care what the women say when I approach because most of them are rather boring so I dont remember full convos. Saying the wrong number back to make sure I get a legit number.
I like to start with joking with the girls to see if they can take a joke, if they cant I eject because women who cant take jokes are generally *****es. In this conversation you can tell alot about the girl you talk to. Lets take one example:
"She: "Ye, we're going to adsad city next weekend to watch the concert. DKF are playing and we've been waiting forever for them to come here." "
In this sentence you learn alot about her. She likes the band DKF, she is going to another city, shes been waiting a long time to see this band.
Possible things to ask her:
"DKF, how come you are listening to them?"
"You're going to *city*? How you're getting there?"
"Was it long since they played here?"
"DKF? They wrote *song* right? got a friend who listens to them"
"DKF, hm, never heard of them... what kinda music is it?"
etc...
Then when she answers you can pick up a new question to ask her from what she said. Its really simple.
You gotta remember that women are as self conscious as you are, it not more. They love to be approached by a nice man, makes them feel pretty and attractive
Finding a good topic is really easy if you're in the right mood. If you're playful, happy and all that you'll find topic after topic. If you think "Omg, think of something to say" Then you wont find a single thing to talk about.
First off, say you're in a mall. Try to find something to talk about from the surrounding area. If she's looking at shoes in a shoe store there's loads of stuff you can do.
- Pick out the most outrageous and bizarre looking shoes and walk to her and say "Hey, sorry to interrupt I just thought you'd look great in these *smile*". Or maybe "Hey, not to be a bother but your shoe laces are untied." or why not "Did you know super man recommend those shoes?". Well it doesnt really matter what you introduce with just as long as you are open and friendly.
So for example:
Me: "Hey... not to be a bother but your shoe laces are untied... just so you know *smile*"
She: *looks down* "What are you talking about. I dont have any shoe laces?"
Me: "Ye, sorry im just messing with ya. The real reason im here is because I saw you and I thought I'd give you a chance to get to know me, you know. "
She: "Is that right?"
Me: "Ye sure, its not easy for you girls to just walk up to any cute guy you'd want to meet so I'd thought I'd save you the hassle."
She: "You sure got us there." *roll eyes to tease*
Me: "So, seems you're looking for a pair of shoes. Mayor party this weekend eh?"
She: "Ye, we're going to adsad city next weekend to watch the concert. DKF are playing and we've been waiting forever for them to come here."
Me: "DKF? Ye, they made the song FEKJW right? Heard they're pretty good."
She: "Ye, they're great!"
Me: "Im Lifeforce btw, nice to meet you"
She: "Im Cindy"
She2: Im Sarah"
Me: "Cindy and Sarah, thats great. I just gotta ask, why would you need new shoes to a concert?"
She: "No we dont. But we're going to the private party after the concert. There's gonna be alot of famous people there."
Me: "Private party? Man how you got tickets to that?"
She: "My father knows the owner of the hotel where they are going to have the party so he managed to get us the tickets. Jealous? *Smile*"
Me: "A little, sounds like its gonna be a blast, hope you remember that on fathers day next time."
She: "Im sure I will"
Me: "You know what, I saw this really cosy café over there. How about you tag along for a cup of coffee with the handsome stranger you just met and get back to getting those shoes a little later.
She: "Oh I dont know, we need to get home kinda early"
Me: "Well tell you what, give me your number and I'll take you out sometime, it'll be great. You know, walking, drinking coffee, eating muffins, making out... hm nevermind the last, dont wanna get your hopes up. So what you say?"
She: "Hmm, well I guess its ok."
Me: "cool, gimme your number and I'll give you a call"
She: "0462 23572341"
Me: "0464 23572341"?
She: No "0462 23572341"
Me: Oh great, cya around then. Good luck finding the shoes. And you too Sarah.
She: Bye!
She2: bye!
First off this is NOT a RL example because quite honestly I dont really care what the women say when I approach because most of them are rather boring so I dont remember full convos. Saying the wrong number back to make sure I get a legit number.
I like to start with joking with the girls to see if they can take a joke, if they cant I eject because women who cant take jokes are generally *****es. In this conversation you can tell alot about the girl you talk to. Lets take one example:
"She: "Ye, we're going to adsad city next weekend to watch the concert. DKF are playing and we've been waiting forever for them to come here." "
In this sentence you learn alot about her. She likes the band DKF, she is going to another city, shes been waiting a long time to see this band.
Possible things to ask her:
"DKF, how come you are listening to them?"
"You're going to *city*? How you're getting there?"
"Was it long since they played here?"
"DKF? They wrote *song* right? got a friend who listens to them"
"DKF, hm, never heard of them... what kinda music is it?"
etc...
Then when she answers you can pick up a new question to ask her from what she said. Its really simple.
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liek the first replier, i would also suggest u to go direct, if u can go direct, u can approach anyone anywhere nad u can do the indirect then of course. direct is actually the easy one because here, the only obstacle u have is YOU. but in indirect, there are several other external factors involved. i would make it even more simple, just know that you are going to say the truth whether she likes it or not, just adopt this mindset, then when u see a gorgeous lady, do this:Bawb14 said:
focus on the woman, zone out of everything else, only her and her and think sexual, imagine her naked, having sex with you, you are enjoying her, she is enjoying you (this should take a couple of secs), when you feel you are alive and you kinda feel a burning feeling inside, a powerful and dominant sensation, you just walk over and say "hi". i tell you once again, only hi and nothing else. just take it from there. in fact, you dont have to think also. once you get into the sexual state and walk over to her and say hi, u will see that the rest actually falls into place.
for daygame, some considerations:
match her energy level - u should be at her energy level or a little over, not much.
personal space - u cannot get right into the intimate space right away. comfort.
kino - dont come on too strong.
thasts it i think. try this out.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Hahaha. I thought that was pretty funny.procanto said:
I'm new at this game like you but I found that asking a question is a great way to start a cold approach. For example, ask for an opinion on something "Excuse me ladies, but what do you think of...". They love to give their opinions. Or if you see two hot girls walking together be like "so are you guys sisters or something?" Be creative. Most important have fun.
One more thing, I've noticed when I was nervous I would talk real fast. I don't know if you'll have this problem but try to focus on talking like 20% slower then normal. It displays confidence and at the same time calms your own nerves down. I always try to talk a little slower then the girl I'm talking to. I find it subconsciously shows that your the one in control and girls find this attractive.