Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How do you go about breaking the ice? Or like getting the girl to open more?

stoner1129

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I know you guys know what I mean, like when your talking to a chick, tryin to get to know her or whatever, and she like doesn't really answer back too much or like it doesn't really seem like you can get her to open up. I've tried different things, you know like being a little funny, a little c&f, some questions, but sometimes they don't seem like they're working.

So how do you guys go about it?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Jitterbug

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Me (yelling): FAT PENGUINS!
Her: What?
Me: Well, they break the ice.
Her: lol

I actually used it a few times just for the hell of it, because I like the line. :D

However, breaking the ice is all about having a good first impression & you only have a few seconds to do it. If she's already talking to you, that means the ice has been broken. However, if you're stuck *during* the conversation, it means that her interest in you (or "buying temperature" as the PUAs call it) is dropping fast (you two just don't click) and you are fighting an uphill battle. Best to excuse yourself and go do something else. Be the first to end the interaction. You can try coming back later when you are (and hopefully she is too) in a better state.
 

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hmmm, nice question, bud. i think connecting with a girl is of utmost importance. if u cant connect, watever u do, c/f, teasing, negs, nothing works. connecting as i feel needs a good first impression. and comon, some girls dont like guys, some are engaged to someone, some just had gone thru a bad relationship, so dont give a heck to them. my advice: stand out in a positive way and just start up as u know her for years keeping it fun and light, and go on to create the connection, u know, the mutual thing. thats it i think!
 

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try leading her by sharing stuff about yourself. if you're being vulnerable she might want to reciprocate it. another thing is to try doign cold reads... ask her a vague question and try to psychoanalyze her based on her answer - sometimes cold reads are open doors toward connection. the other thing is to genuinely look for something that you find interesting about her

but don't be trying to maniuplate her in real-time like, maybe if I ask her this, she'll open up.... no she didn't, fvck what do I do

it doesn't work like taht
 

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Jitterbug said:
Me (yelling): FAT PENGUINS!
Her: What?
Me: Well, they break the ice.
Her: lol
waaaaaaaaah I just exploded right there :D
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Groovy

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Jitterbug said:
Me (yelling): FAT PENGUINS!
Her: What?
Me: Well, they break the ice.
Her: lol
Hahaha! :D

It's a nice one!

If you walk with a smile and speak with enthusiasm her coldness wont last long.

If it presists ask for a smile! :up: It hasn't failed me yet!
 

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schttrj said:
hmmm, nice question, bud. i think connecting with a girl is of utmost importance. if u cant connect, watever u do, c/f, teasing, negs, nothing works. connecting as i feel needs a good first impression. and comon, some girls dont like guys, some are engaged to someone, some just had gone thru a bad relationship, so dont give a heck to them. my advice: stand out in a positive way and just start up as u know her for years keeping it fun and light, and go on to create the connection, u know, the mutual thing. thats it i think!
well put
 

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it also helps to observe for a little time to see how she interacts with others. if that is not in the scenario than you simply need to go for it and if she still isn't openning up, carry on you're bussy ;)
 
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