How do you go about breaking the ice? Or like getting the girl to open more?

[stoner1129]

I know you guys know what I mean, like when your talking to a chick, tryin to get to know her or whatever, and she like doesn't really answer back too much or like it doesn't really seem like you can get her to open up. I've tried different things, you know like being a little funny, a little c&f, some questions, but sometimes they don't seem like they're working.

So how do you guys go about it?

 

[Jitterbug]

Me (yelling): FAT PENGUINS!
Her: What?
Me: Well, they break the ice.
Her: lol

I actually used it a few times just for the hell of it, because I like the line.

However, breaking the ice is all about having a good first impression & you only have a few seconds to do it. If she's already talking to you, that means the ice has been broken. However, if you're stuck *during* the conversation, it means that her interest in you (or "buying temperature" as the PUAs call it) is dropping fast (you two just don't click) and you are fighting an uphill battle. Best to excuse yourself and go do something else. Be the first to end the interaction. You can try coming back later when you are (and hopefully she is too) in a better state.

 

[schttrj]

hmmm, nice question, bud. i think connecting with a girl is of utmost importance. if u cant connect, watever u do, c/f, teasing, negs, nothing works. connecting as i feel needs a good first impression. and comon, some girls dont like guys, some are engaged to someone, some just had gone thru a bad relationship, so dont give a heck to them. my advice: stand out in a positive way and just start up as u know her for years keeping it fun and light, and go on to create the connection, u know, the mutual thing. thats it i think!

 

[ready123]

try leading her by sharing stuff about yourself. if you're being vulnerable she might want to reciprocate it. another thing is to try doign cold reads... ask her a vague question and try to psychoanalyze her based on her answer - sometimes cold reads are open doors toward connection. the other thing is to genuinely look for something that you find interesting about her

but don't be trying to maniuplate her in real-time like, maybe if I ask her this, she'll open up.... no she didn't, fvck what do I do

it doesn't work like taht

 

[Huffman]

Me (yelling): FAT PENGUINS!
Her: What?
Me: Well, they break the ice.
Her: lol

waaaaaaaaah I just exploded right there

 

[Groovy]

Me (yelling): FAT PENGUINS!
Her: What?
Me: Well, they break the ice.
Her: lol

Hahaha!

It's a nice one!

If you walk with a smile and speak with enthusiasm her coldness wont last long.

If it presists ask for a smile! It hasn't failed me yet!

 

[strey]

hmmm, nice question, bud. i think connecting with a girl is of utmost importance. if u cant connect, watever u do, c/f, teasing, negs, nothing works. connecting as i feel needs a good first impression. and comon, some girls dont like guys, some are engaged to someone, some just had gone thru a bad relationship, so dont give a heck to them. my advice: stand out in a positive way and just start up as u know her for years keeping it fun and light, and go on to create the connection, u know, the mutual thing. thats it i think!

well put

 

[Sir I]

it also helps to observe for a little time to see how she interacts with others. if that is not in the scenario than you simply need to go for it and if she still isn't openning up, carry on you're bussy

 

[MrNotebook]

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