AverageJoe5
Don Juan
I've been looking over all these posts and the DJ bible the past week. My question though how exactly does one get this mindset? I know it doesn't come overnight, but what starts one down that path?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How do you get the mindset of a DJ?
- Thread starter AverageJoe5
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Boner da Stoner
Master Don Juan
tell me what your looking for. What do you think a DJ is?
The day I got the mindset was the day I realized that whatever I did in the past did not work.
Then, I stopped caring, started enjoying my life, and that's when things got better.
Just don't run around looking for results... instead, know they'll come. Be confident, be a man.
Peace.
-Bill
Then, I stopped caring, started enjoying my life, and that's when things got better.
Just don't run around looking for results... instead, know they'll come. Be confident, be a man.
Peace.
-Bill
mroriginal
Banned
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No, you have to care but not for dumb things like getting laid.most importantly you need a positive mindset on life you need to be confident just because you are confident to girls doesnt mean you dont care.you have to care or else it would be so easy.
You stop caring,you stop caring for your body you dont care what you smell like you dont care what the next words are gonna be when you talk to an HB9.to have DJ mindset You have to know what you want and go for it.
just stop caring.
No, you have to care but not for dumb things like getting laid.most importantly you need a positive mindset on life you need to be confident just because you are confident to girls doesnt mean you dont care.you have to care or else it would be so easy.
You stop caring,you stop caring for your body you dont care what you smell like you dont care what the next words are gonna be when you talk to an HB9.to have DJ mindset You have to know what you want and go for it.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
when you can go to the beach, and look at the ocean and say "MY world is beautiful" you are in the mindset of a DJ.
read the myth of sisyphus. a DJ is the type of guy that could be transported to planet X and as long as he was attracted to the natives, he'd be impregnating them within hours. a DJ is someone who has a world that follows him. i loosely quote nietzsche... "if you were able to communicate with the gnat, he would tell you that he is the center of the universe, and that flying in this circle is the meaning of life"
a DJ is simply a person that is satisfied with themselves and confident in what they do. the mindset of a DJ includes only the DJs interest. today i am going out riding my dirtbike although i could be out on a date. but to be honest, i have a date tomorrow and my bro has been trying to ride all week. my interests come first and surprise, the girl i flaked on today should still be alive next week and surprise she'll still be my friend even though i didn't go out with her today. all because she wants to be associated with my world and not the other way around. a DJ not only thinks that girls are lucky to talk to him, but KNOWS that girls are lucky to talk to him. a DJ understands that the majority of guys (even guys somewhat succesful with girls) aren't really getting what they want in life. a DJ understands that 7/10 guys are simply incapable of being a DJ and even given the instructions, they just can not do it. a DJ understands that even if there were a million look alikes, he'd still be one of a kind.
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read the myth of sisyphus. a DJ is the type of guy that could be transported to planet X and as long as he was attracted to the natives, he'd be impregnating them within hours. a DJ is someone who has a world that follows him. i loosely quote nietzsche... "if you were able to communicate with the gnat, he would tell you that he is the center of the universe, and that flying in this circle is the meaning of life"
a DJ is simply a person that is satisfied with themselves and confident in what they do. the mindset of a DJ includes only the DJs interest. today i am going out riding my dirtbike although i could be out on a date. but to be honest, i have a date tomorrow and my bro has been trying to ride all week. my interests come first and surprise, the girl i flaked on today should still be alive next week and surprise she'll still be my friend even though i didn't go out with her today. all because she wants to be associated with my world and not the other way around. a DJ not only thinks that girls are lucky to talk to him, but KNOWS that girls are lucky to talk to him. a DJ understands that the majority of guys (even guys somewhat succesful with girls) aren't really getting what they want in life. a DJ understands that 7/10 guys are simply incapable of being a DJ and even given the instructions, they just can not do it. a DJ understands that even if there were a million look alikes, he'd still be one of a kind.
^-- the mindset of a DJ
AverageJoe5
Don Juan
Boner da Stoner,
I think now that I think about it. A DJ i someone who views themselves as the prize. Someone who really enjoys life.
I mean I used to go around being all depressed and angry.
GOD what a waste of life now that I think about iit. what I really want is a compelling, fulfilling, daring life.
I think now that I think about it. A DJ i someone who views themselves as the prize. Someone who really enjoys life.
I mean I used to go around being all depressed and angry.
GOD what a waste of life now that I think about iit. what I really want is a compelling, fulfilling, daring life.
this site is more or less a confidence booster for men who've been beaten down by what they're taught in the media. when you watch tv or hear commericals its all directed towards women because women will shop. ever notice how commercials show guys being idiots? you think this **** appeals to guys? im willing to be theres some of you that are saying "well ive never seen commercials like that" .. because you dont notice. the media has pounded the idea into girls that men are bumbling FOOLS who are only useful for brute tasks and MANLY things.
in other words, if you dont have the confidence to be yourself, women see you as a bumbling fool that picks up boxes. having confidence alone already sets you apart. being a DJ is understanding your confidence as a feature like a woman would understand her nice ass and body as a feature & FLAUNT it.
in other words, if you dont have the confidence to be yourself, women see you as a bumbling fool that picks up boxes. having confidence alone already sets you apart. being a DJ is understanding your confidence as a feature like a woman would understand her nice ass and body as a feature & FLAUNT it.
mroriginal
Banned
Being a don juan is improving your self to the fullest and then flaunting it.you flaunt it now you might not be as confident or ****y or maybe still AFCish and you would end up with terrible results.being a DJ is understanding your confidence as a feature like a woman would understand her nice ass and body as a feature & FLAUNT it.
EDIT:you have to grow from this experience first thats why most of us are here to learn and practice then later we see what we did wrong or we learn it now by reading.
mroriginal
Banned
Another thing the media has very little affect on girls it depends where your at,southern california is completelty different from new york miami or seattle.every region is diferent the media might have a big affect on socal since that is where movie stars producers and aspiring actors/singers whatever live.but you wont find the same affect in arkanssas or somewhere in the south.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
i have to disagree bro. i've lived here all my life and haven't seen movie stars. i go to santa monica and hollywood and whatever other places movie stars in california are supposed to be at. me myself i dont watch tv or listen to the radio much as i'm heavily into my hobbies and have not done so since i was probably 11 or 12 or so. i have a completely outsider view on how media affects people... anything you're infront of for that long is going to influence you, just as if you went to another country you'd learn the language. with all due respect my mother is from arkansas and i've found the media to be influential there. but this is all besides the point because i dont think the motive of your post was to inform me that media isn't influential ;D
when a man goes into a store, hes going to buy *something* he needs,wants, etc he knows what it is. when a woman goes to shop, they're LOOKING for something. you're trying to tell me that millions of commercials pounding this basic principle into womens heads isn't influential and if it is its only out here in cali? rediculous, all those commercials do is reinforce the bull**** your average woman assumes about men. no offense but influencing is what advertisments are for.
when a man goes into a store, hes going to buy *something* he needs,wants, etc he knows what it is. when a woman goes to shop, they're LOOKING for something. you're trying to tell me that millions of commercials pounding this basic principle into womens heads isn't influential and if it is its only out here in cali? rediculous, all those commercials do is reinforce the bull**** your average woman assumes about men. no offense but influencing is what advertisments are for.
DinoCassanova
Senior Don Juan
When I was 17 I did not have this mindset. It seems to have set in more so within the past couple of years, my very late 20's into my 30th year now. When I was 17......... it was a very good year. Just kidding....... No, but seriously, at that time in my life I was pretty easily thrown off by anything that remotely resembled an affair of the heart, even a date. I was the typical AFC, sometimes even BAFC. I lived in the middle of the capital city of AFCville.
So I don't know for sure but it seems like part of it comes with age and maturing more, realizing that you've gotten this far without her, therefore you clearly don't need her. You have to internalize the concept that you don't "need" anyone of the opposite sex (or the same sex for that matter, as far as a certain friend or group of friends or whatever) to make your life "complete". It has to already be complete. Or at least you have to truly believe and feel it is. Then you come to the table feeling like a player, not a gambler. The difference between a player and a gambler is that a player is there to have fun. He literally doesn't care if he wins or loses, and the reasons he doesn't care are obvious; he's already got all he wants or needs in his life. Again, he's just there to have fun. The gambler however is nervous. He's there because he HAS to win (or at least he feels he does). He's the guy who's trying to look cool as ice but is actually sweating damn near through his shirt as the cards are being dealt. Be a player, not a gambler, when you go to the "table" that is the dating game or the social scene in general. That's my advice at least. ~Dino~
So I don't know for sure but it seems like part of it comes with age and maturing more, realizing that you've gotten this far without her, therefore you clearly don't need her. You have to internalize the concept that you don't "need" anyone of the opposite sex (or the same sex for that matter, as far as a certain friend or group of friends or whatever) to make your life "complete". It has to already be complete. Or at least you have to truly believe and feel it is. Then you come to the table feeling like a player, not a gambler. The difference between a player and a gambler is that a player is there to have fun. He literally doesn't care if he wins or loses, and the reasons he doesn't care are obvious; he's already got all he wants or needs in his life. Again, he's just there to have fun. The gambler however is nervous. He's there because he HAS to win (or at least he feels he does). He's the guy who's trying to look cool as ice but is actually sweating damn near through his shirt as the cards are being dealt. Be a player, not a gambler, when you go to the "table" that is the dating game or the social scene in general. That's my advice at least. ~Dino~