"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do you get RID of a girl crushing on you!?

smoofle

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So basically there's this girl who's got a crush on me...she's always calling me and she always wants to hang out and talk to me. The problem is, she's a pretty good friend of mine. So I guess what I'm asking is, is there a surefire way that I can get her to stop crushing on me and just going back to friends? I can't seem to think of anything but a confrontation, but she's kind of a cry baby and I want to avoid that.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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MoBo

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Just tell her whats up, if you really like her as a friend that would work best, IMO. If you try to do some like DLV stuff to her that might make her not want to be friends with you.


Just my 2 cents.

-MoBo
 

Michele l'Arcangelo

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funny thing is... things work out opposite from what you want it to.

when you like a girl... you try hard to get her... you push causing her to freak out and pull away... which in return causes you to try even harder.

when a girl likes you, she tries hard to get you... shes pushes causing you to freak out and pull away... only for her to increase her interest in you.

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you can do one of two things...

do the un-"DJ" thing and tell her you love her and gushy **** like that... freak her out and force her to give you the "well... actually, let's just be friends" line
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tell her upfront that YOU want to be just friends.

i see that either way... a friendship can STILL be messed up if two people don't go into a sexual, or exclusive relationship... due to the one person being bitter about being told "let's just be friends."
 
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