You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Thats what I was wondering to myself. Is this FEAR? or is it ADRENALINE? Because I everytime it has happened it wasnt something directed towards me, it was other peoples altercations. But just being there gave me that feeling. I don't feel scared and my mind is usually blank when it happens.DJDamage said:Its normal Fight or Flight response. What you are feeling is a surge in your adrenaline levels which would make you stronger if you wish to fight and much faster if you wish to run.
The best way is to continue to take your MMA more seriously so that you will know how to handle yourself in every situation and thus you won't feel that adrenaline rush so much.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Why do I get the feeling you have a criminal record?Bvbidd said:I thought that was a good feeling. Never thought fear had anything to do with it.
It's so powerful.
It feels fvcking good.