How do you get over this?

[perseverance]

I thought I got over this girl around 8 months ago. I thought my feelings for her were dead and buried. I thought I had moved on. Life was going great for me and then I saw her and her new boyfriend together and then it hit me "I still have deep feelings for this girl", "I wish she was mine". Although my feelings for this were supressed, it would appear they never went away.

After seeing her, my desire to be with her has increased and I really want to break my no contact with her, I know I shouldn't. I'm feeling weak and need advice on what to do next....

The AFC bug has bitten me again, sorry folks.

 

[BMX]

You have answered your own questions. Proceed to the next girl's bedroom and get underneath said female if you want to get over the last one.

 

[youngmack]

I feel you bro, it always happens to me when i see her or see her post on facebook. Currently im trying to improve my life totally and its a struggle because my ex keeps popping up. : /

 

[Purefilth]

I'm with you man, kicks the gut like a 12 gauge, personally I think its the realization that she's moved on. There's always a part of you deep down that thinks she'll never be over you, but seeing her with another guy shakes it up, and the reality you're living hasn't changed at all but it feels different, it feels wrong. Solution: get on some new pvssy and pound it! You'll feel better

 

[Atom Smasher]

You need to remember that ALL men go through this. It is an inescapable rite of passage, so you're in excellent and plentiful company.

You're simply experiencing a spike of the radar as feelings that you're processing are becoming inflamed, so-to-speak. It's natural and to be expected.

Just continue the NC and work to find other projects, interests and friendships.

A large part of this is not so much that you loved her as much as it is that she was "yours" and you perceive that another man has what was once yours. So your inner dialog makes up all sorts of things to tell you in order to entice you to get that which is "rightfully yours" back.

It's just pride, and again, it's perfectly normal. We all go through it and it hurts. Remember that if you two were supposed to be together, it would have worked out. Perhaps you are actually totally incompatible, perhaps you are in different periods in your lives, perhaps you were growing at different rates, perhaps many other things. But the bottom line is that it simply isn't meant to be. There is another fish in that great big sea who will be just right for you. She is not just right for you. So let her go, be a man about his business and before you know it this temporary spike will subside. It will subside much sooner than you think. You're dealing with breaking an addiction, which is tough, but you're well on your way. Remember that your emotional spikes are only temporary flare-ups and most definitely not reality.

 

[Alvafe]

yeah, its mostly likely your pride and ego , but its always help you keep NC, and move on, the less you know, faster you move on, facebook on that hand really make difficult you lose all contact like you should, I don't mean to block her there, but just make anything she does or not don't show on your feeds, don't even know if its possible.

 

[Packers2010]

after awhile you just don't feel the same way about her, it just takes time man.

one day you'll just wake up and think. : man she wasn't the right girl for me. "