How do you get over a girl you have to deal with regularly?

[OneofOne]

I met this girl a few months ago and started talking to her. She gives me signals that she was interested, but every time I try to escalate she shuts me down.

I've since figured out that she just does this **** to get attention, and have stopped giving her attention. My problem now is that I still want her really bad and I have to see her 3-4 times a week due to my work.

How do I get over her?

 

[Igetit!]

I met this girl a few months ago and started talking to her.

So you met her "a few months ago".

Then it's abvious that you never showed your interest in her by asking her out. Because if you had,you'd have learned where you stood with her "a few months ago" when you two first met.

She had either said yes,and you two would have went out,or she'd have said no,then you'd have moved on.


But to still be hung up on her or still "wondering" about her intentions after 4 or 5 months is ridiculous.

She gives me signals that she was interested, but every time I try to escalate she shuts me down.

If everytime you try to escalate she shuts you down,then she's either NOT giving you signs of interest but YOU misinterpeted them as such,or she's giving you FAKE IOIs,sort of a "carrot dangling in front of your face" kind of thing in order to get you go do whatever she's wanting you to do.

I've since figured out that she just does this **** to get attention, and have stopped giving her attention.

If she's an attention wh0re with you,then that means that YOU mistakenly,unknowingly,boosted and fed her ego while you were attemping ger her to go out with you.

You slipped up while you were trying to make her interested and attracted to you.


It's easy to make this error. You just have to watch HOW you go about speaking and acting towards her while trying to gain her interest.


But once you understand how you did this,it'll be easy to avoid in the future.


Don't think that just ignoring her and not speaking to her will fix this,because it won't.

My problem now is that I still want her really bad and I have to see her 3-4 times a week due to my work.

How do I get over her?

Well,if you know that she only wants attention from you and has no interst in dating you,shouldn't that itself be enough to make you get over her?

If I like a girl,then I learn that she doesn't like me back,that alone is enough to make me back off from her. I may still say hi or be cordial with her if I see her every now and then,but that's it.

I won't pursue her anymore.

 

[horaholic]

Just focus on everything negative about her, and game other girls. She is a stupid hor. All you need to do is find the reasons that make this true.

 

[Demystify]

I've had a girl do this exact same thing to me and I also had to see her all the time. I'd recommend ignoring as much as possible, because girls like this will find a way to bait you by even the tiniest bit of communication.

Anyways, be sure and post how it turns out with her. And definitely let me know if you figure out how to get with her. lol

 

[KG33]

Dude, I had a chick at work who did exactly the same thing and I fell for it. These kind of girls have serious problems. They need attention from men like other humans need air but as soon as they get it they're done. I finally realized that the girl I work with was damaged goods. Now I just feel kind of sorry for her and see her for the sad person she is.