"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do you get out of a date?

time2change

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Hi, just wondering, what's the best way to end a date with a girl you don't like? Recently I've been several dates with girls I've met online. Unfortunately, I didn't like them, yet I didn't want to be rude, so I had to spend a couple of hours with them. What do you guys do when you see that your date is far from expectations?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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devilkingx2

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"hey, look over there!"

then run.
 

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Why dont you like them? Is it looks? Because you've already seen their photos, so that makes no sense. If its their personality... who cares, get some a$$ and move on...
 

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Oh man my stomach is acting up, gotta run!

Fart on the way out.




If they call back, sorry I'm allergic to you.


:crackup:
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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pdx1138

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The best way to deal with that is to keep the first date
simple and brief. Which you should be doing in the first place.

Invite them to Lunch or Coffee.

I had this happen a few times. Her photos looked MUCH
better. Another one was super heavy.

When I know I'm not attracted to them in person, I just
go with the flow and use it as socializing with a stranger practice.
 

time2change

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Betterz said:
Why dont you like them? Is it looks? Because you've already seen their photos, so that makes no sense. If its their personality... who cares, get some a$$ and move on...
You know, photos can be misleading. Especially, if they are photos of girls on the dating sites. You never know what to expect.
 

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Espi said:
"Sorry but I can't see you tonight."

Don't flatter yourself. She has 10 other guys in waiting.
LOL! QFT!

I just use the emergency phone call.

Case closed.
 

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If they have lied on their profile, weight, age whatever, you don't have any obligation to sit there for two hours. Same if you aren't feeling it. Just keep early dates in stages that you control whether the next stage happens or not. No meals, movies, concerts or things of fixed duration. "Hey want to check out X neighborhood and grab a drink?" That can be a 30 minute date or a 2 hour one, up to you. If they lied on the profile, you are within your rights to cut it real short, if they didn't lie, no harm in spending 30 minutes with someone.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Harry Wilmington

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Why the heck are you having 2 hour dates with girls you're just meeting for the first time anyway? YOU are the one setting up the date, so YOU should also be in control of how long they last. Like someone else said above, keep first dates simple - coffee shops, bookstores, someplace where you can sit and talk but also end the conversation at any time.

Anyway... the easiest way to get out of a date is to tell her BEFORE the date that you have someplace else you have to be after the date, but don't tell her what time that thing starts. That way, if the date is going well you can just say "oh, the thing got moved to tomorrow night instead;" and, if you're having a BAD time, you can say "well, I gotta get going so I can prepare for that thing I'm going to tonight." Very simple stuff, maaaaan!
 
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