How do you get in the mind of a alpha female/female don juan

[zekko]

Yeah your right but im already attractive. i don't really have a problem attracting girls being that im a very good dresser and i have nice hair..Its just the "game" part i don't get..i have read the dj bible countless of times and i am still confused on how to game a girl??... It seems like i can never keep her interested in me long enough and im get boring...i also know that i am a bad conversationalist, and i dont know exactly how to "game" a girl

When I said make yourself more attractive, I didn't just mean looks. Women are attracted to the whole package. In your case, you can work on making yourself a more interesting person, becoming a better converstationalist, being a more fun guy, how to approach women, etc. These are long term projects, and since you're so young, you've got a lot of time to improve.

By the way, I didn't mean to imply that you should give up on your player girl necessarily. It's probably too early to tell about that. Generally speaking though, player girls are bad news. I'm sure there are other girls out there who would be more receptive to you, and a lot less hassle in the long run.

 

[youngmack]

When I said make yourself more attractive, I didn't just mean looks. Women are attracted to the whole package. In your case, you can work on making yourself a more interesting person, becoming a better converstationalist, being a more fun guy, how to approach women, etc. These are long term projects, and since you're so young, you've got a lot of time to improve.

By the way, I didn't mean to imply that you should give up on your player girl necessarily. It's probably too early to tell about that. Generally speaking though, player girls are bad news. I'm sure there are other girls out there who would be more receptive to you, and a lot less hassle in the long run.

But how do i become a more interesting guy? i find that i am such a bore and i see no solution to this. Nothing fun ever comes to my mind... all i do if follow along with other peoples fun ideas

 

[zekko]

But how do i become a more interesting guy? i find that i am such a bore and i see no solution to this. Nothing fun ever comes to my mind... all i do if follow along with other peoples fun ideas

Well, at sixteen you're almost not even expected to be interesting yet lol.

But it's a process. It helps to find your niche, something that you're good at, or passionate about. Then you'll be "the guy who plays guitar in that rock band", or "there's the guy who's on the baseball team", or "there's the guy who sold a painting for $1000".

It helps to be open to new experiences, which can sometimes be scary for a young fellow. Like if someone says "Want to go play paintball?" or go try rock climbing (don't kill yourself) or play golf or something. Not that many girls golf but it seems like most of the ones that do are smoking hot...

The more experiences you have, the more points of reference you have to talk about with people. Even being familiar with the pop culture of the moment - like if you watch the same TV show as somebody it gives you something to talk about. Reading, keeping up with current events "Hey, what do you think about Trayvon Martin?", same thing.

Of course, the classic thing they say about making conversation is get the other person to talk about themselves, because that's what they like best.

 

[In10se]

I wish I had someone to tell me the following advice when I was in highschool:
you group into cliques and you watch athletic or "popular" kids get the hottest girls...well realize that in the small microcosm of your highschool the "popular" people are nobodies...in reality they are just spoon fed little kids supported by their parents and have no taste of the real world...with that in mind you should just enjoy highschool and talk to every girl you find remotely attractive or interesting...at the very least you will have more practice "gaming" girls...eventually game just becomes a natural mechanism...you learn how to lead a conversation and keep a whole group's attention...don't focus so much on how you think this one girl will respond to you...talk to her, see if she would hang out with you or go to a party with you...if not ...ignore her for awhile and flirt with other cute girls...highschool is a great place to experiment and work on your future game...good thing you are starting young

 

[CostaDeSol]

But how do i become a more interesting guy? i find that i am such a bore and i see no solution to this. Nothing fun ever comes to my mind... all i do if follow along with other peoples fun ideas

I have huge issues with game too, but I've learned a few things in my interactions with people.

how to become an interesting guy: Have ambitious/fun goals in life.

Every time i would talk to girls about my long term goals for my business they would always be impressed. As soon as i mention them, their eyes get wide and they start firing questions to me about it.

I've been screwing it up though by not achieving the short-term goals for business.

An easy way to make convo is by asking questions about what they do. not necessarily interview style, but simple questions that get them to talk about themselves. girls love to talk about themselves.

 

[youngmack]

Alright i hear you guys..but back to getting this girl...How do i go about doing it?

 

[youngmack]

?????

 

[youngmack]

Oh and BTW this girl was my girlfriend for a month and a half, and i want her back i basically have oneitis for her

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Get your confidence game up.

 

[Trump]

None of the above.she not a ***** but yes she does love attention, and she always flirts with different guys and leads them on, so basically things you try dont really phase her because shes either seen it all or she had many other options...It something i must do in order to surpass all those other guys/competition

Why would you want to be with such a needy girl with low self esteem? She may be hot, but the constant need for compliments and power trip shows a deeper problem.

Anyway if you still want to get such a girl because of her looks, you have to be genuine with your desires. Show some interest, tease her, subtly put her down, etc, etc. She also has to have a Reason to talk to you, and it can't be because you are a horny 16 year old.

 

[youngmack]

Im not sure if she has low self esteem...its just that she uses these same don juan strategies against me so like these same strategies i use dosent work on her