How do you get happy?

[Voice]

I noticed something the other day. For the most part I am not really happy around people. I never smile and hardly ever have any enthusiasm I talk. I mope around with a frown on my face. I'm always told to smile. In fact the only time I really get girls is when I'm drunk and somewhat giddy from the alcohol.

Other than that I'm anxious, boring and not very personable.

I love this article http://www.sosuave.com/articles/at/powerful.htm

How do you guys become happy? How do you smile and be friendly? How do you get that positive energy?

 

[f283000]

Is it really because you're not happy or is it just a sign of maturity? personal growth? Spirituality? I challenge you to see this another way.

Oftentimes I feel like nothing really excites me anymore. Somebody could knock on my door, show me the brand new ferrari I won and I would smile but you would never see me jumping for joy or full of happyness. Basically if I won it great if not I don't really care.

I remember the first time I went to a club and it was this great thrill, it was exciting, i was fun going out with friends. Last time I went to a club I just didn't care. It wouldn't have matter to me if I had been at the club or at home.

I used to see all this as sort of a midlife crisis or lack of energy but lately I have realized that it's just personal growth. The material things that once got me excited, the pointless and silly things like going to a club that once got me excited, all those things my spirit has overcome and is searching out for something new. What is that something new? I don't know but i'm hoping to find.

I see it from a spiritual perspective and a personal growth perspective.

 

[Voice]

Is it really because you're not happy or is it just a sign of maturity? personal growth? Spirituality? I challenge you to see this another way.

Oftentimes I feel like nothing really excites me anymore. Somebody could knock on my door, show me the brand new ferrari I won and I would smile but you would never see me jumping for joy or full of happyness. Basically if I won it great if not I don't really care.

I remember the first time I went to a club and it was this great thrill, it was exciting, i was fun going out with friends. Last time I went to a club I just didn't care. It wouldn't have matter to me if I had been at the club or at home.

I used to see all this as sort of a midlife crisis or lack of energy but lately I have realized that it's just personal growth. The material things that once got me excited, the pointless and silly things like going to a club that once got me excited, all those things my spirit has overcome and is searching out for something new. What is that something new? I don't know but i'm hoping to find.

I see it from a spiritual perspective and a personal growth perspective.

Yeah, nothing really does excite me anymore. But is it personal growth? Whatever it is, it's not really making me anymore attractive. So am I growing or just becoming more jaded?

I seriously have to be drunk to enjoy myself at bars/clubs, even then it's not the same as it used to be. If I'm not drunk I just stand around and watch people or I just want to sit down, have a few drinks and watch the game. It's almost like, what's the point of socializing? I see the social dynamics and I can clearly see for example, what guys are trying to pick up what girls and what girls are looking for attention. It's almost like I see right through everyone and their social intentions and I don't want to be a part of that. I almost feel like I'm on the outside looking in.

Maybe I'm more mature, but I'm not any more happy and I don't know how to be.

 

[Re-ac-tor]

If you strive for happiness, you'll rarely achieve it.

 

[Voice]

If you strive for happiness, you'll rarely achieve it.

Lol, is that from a fortune cookie? Really though, I'm looking for real life examples here.

How do you get happy?

 

[FairShake]

Find out what is bothering you and attempt to rectify it. At the very least it puts you in a position of striving rather than stagnating. Even if you are at the very bottom.

If you find out what's bothering you and you can't figure out a process on how to fix it you are probably depressed and a professional may be necessary.