"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How do YOU get girls?

Primary method that you've met the girls you've sexed?

  • Cold Approach (Street, markets, stores etc)

    Votes: 3 7.7%
  • Met through a friend (Your social network)

    Votes: 16 41.0%
  • Dating Website (Match, eHarmony etc)

    Votes: 3 7.7%
  • Social Network site (Myspace, Facebook)

    Votes: 2 5.1%
  • Met at school (In class)

    Votes: 2 5.1%
  • Met at school (outside of class)

    Votes: 2 5.1%
  • Club pickup

    Votes: 3 7.7%
  • Party hookup

    Votes: 6 15.4%
  • Other (please explain)

    Votes: 2 5.1%

  • Total voters
    39

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There are many ways that people meet girls and subsequently have sex with them. Which method is the primary one you use to get girls. Please feel free to talk a little about your tactics.

If you've only been with one girl, then pick the choice that applies to her.

Also if you don't pick up girls or are not having sex with anybody please do not vote, and just click View Poll Results to see results if you are curious.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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49 views and only 6 votes? Maybe I should have added a 10th option, "I don't get girls"
 

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LostAndConfused said:
I'd vote for the 10th :crackup:
Sadly, so would I.

So far the most common choice is "Met through a friend (Your social network)" with 54%

That is the method that I thought would get the most votes. The social network seems to be the best way to meet girls. Hooking up at parties is also a spin-off of social network because if you don't know anybody at the party then most likely you wouldn't have gone.

The odds of two strangers meeting who have nothing in common, then having sex seems to be very low, even though a couple of people did hook up with somebody they met in class.

So far nobody has chosen either of the online options.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think the numbers are off...no one selected dating website although 75% of the people on here are on one.

I demand a recount!
 

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LOL sosuave is a dating website? It currently has 31,110 members and I think maybe 10 of those are female :D
 

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other - work; When a woman sees me working, she wants me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Poonani Maker said:
other - work; When a woman sees me working, she wants me.
LOL I forgot about work. What's odd about that, is that it is how I actually got to spend real time with girls. Heck it's also how I had my first "hook up" with a girl. We didn't have sex and all we did was make out. But still thats the farthest I have ever gone with a "real girl." It was years ago and I ended up getting burned so I guess I blocked it out.

Back to the poll.

So far friend of a friend is still #1 with party hookups at #2.
 

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Poonani Maker said:
other - work; When a woman sees me working, she wants me.
Hmm, let me guess......you're either a physical trainer or a construction worker....am I right?

Either way, that's cool, just don't fvck girls who you work with, that messes things up bad :(
 

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Quick question that hasn't been discussed much. I am getting out of college next December and the party/club thing could be coming to an end when I get the 9-5 job. What do the guys with the professional jobs do to meet girls? I want to get some practice before it hits me. I most likely won't be in a big city like NY or LA either and I don't particularly like the idea of dating websites.
 

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I don't do anything 'exclusively' to meet women. I use whatever works to meet a woman in whatever situation I am in. Although, I never (and probably will never) use the internet for meeting women. It just seems wrong to me for personal reasons. If you like to meet women online, more power to ya.

I actually do several of the things listed on your poll, making it impossible to vote. Sorry.:p
 

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Maxtro said:
There are many ways that people meet girls and subsequently have sex with them. Which method is the primary one you use to get girls. Please feel free to talk a little about your tactics.

If you've only been with one girl, then pick the choice that applies to her.

Also if you don't pick up girls or are not having sex with anybody please do not vote, and just click View Poll Results to see results if you are curious.
1) Chloroform.

2) I get a shovel, and I wait until the local graveyard is closed. I jump the fence... and...

Actually, I just ask women out. I don't really have a tried and true method. I have a normal way of going about asking women out, but so far, that way hasn't really worked.

First time, it was a set up, and the woman thought I was rich, and would buy her all kinds of things. Heh. The joke was on HER.

Second time, she claimed that she liked me, so, we just decided to take it easy and see how things would go.

But both cases ended badly, so... what info I can get from my "pick up" methods is limited...
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Sam Adams said:
Quick question that hasn't been discussed much. I am getting out of college next December and the party/club thing could be coming to an end when I get the 9-5 job. What do the guys with the professional jobs do to meet girls? I want to get some practice before it hits me. I most likely won't be in a big city like NY or LA either and I don't particularly like the idea of dating websites.
If I had a clue I'd try to give some advice. Unfortunately I don't so I made this poll :eek:

I'm still in college and I'll be starting at a university in the fall. Doesn't really matter though because out of all the years that I've been in college I've gotten nowhere with the chicks.

Right now it's obvious that the best way to meet girls is through your friends or at parties, but you only go to the parties if you have friends. So how do you get chicks if you don't have friends?
 

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Cold Approaching...is generally my only option right now and to me is the best option. There is no limit as to what kind of women you can approach. From the hippie chicks to rich business chicks.

When I first started it was in school (Outside of class)

- My social circle all went away to college
- Dating/Network Sites :down: always disliked this
- clubs/parties, I usual go to only if I'm going with my dance group and the purpose is...dancing. Haven't hung out with them in a few months so it's been awhile.
 

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All of the above except social networks.
 

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For some reason I have never had good luck with myspace. Facebook hookups are good but thats usually someone you already know, and only when I was in school. For me it is a mix of cold approach, bars/clubs, social circles(not as often).

To the guys talking about getting out of college, yeah it is different I'm still adjusting. I moved to a new area so I don't have a social circle anymore, tried the myspace thing with limited success, so mostly I "cold approach", but it doesn't seem cold to me because I chat up random people alot when I'm out. Then when one of them happens to be a hottie it doesn't seem strange to me that I would start talking to someone I don't know very well. Getting out of college forces you to work on that angle of game though, because I am going out and getting drunk less, and I don';t have a social circle who is going to invite girls to our party, etc. It's good though because alcohol and social circles can make you too comfortable so you don't talk to random people as much.

Also I think there is less of a stigma about hooking up w/ coworkers, but if you're planning on dropping them and moving on to the next coworker yeah it would be a problem. People work spend so much time at work nowadays that it's only natural that it happens. Although you have to be more discreet and def. avoid anything that could be percieved as sexual harassment going that route.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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