"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How do you forget everything

Cougar10033

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Well i have been on this site for years!!! It seems like while im single i live by the bible. Even when i first starte my relationships i follow the bible. But in my last 2 relationships at some point i honestly forget everything???? I am still in my current relationship for over a year and a half but things have been pissing me off lately with the way things are going. I come to this site and its like an eye opener. I have been doing everything wrong and like a tape on rewind im getting the same results. DO you guys think its to late in the relationship to go back to the way i acted when we first started dating... or would a next and rebuild be better?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yea, that's the thing. I always preach that DJing is a state of mind, not a technique. When you approach DJing as a technique, what happened to you, is what happens, along with poor game.

What that means is that DJing must be you. It's not any set of techniques, it is everything combined together, and you don't concentrate on anything in particular, because DJing is natural to you. That's what I mean by DJing is a state of mind, not a thing or technique you do.


Bruce Lee talks about this. There is some reference to this on Gunwitch guide, look it up on google.
 

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I couldnt agree more man. I was becomming miserable, The only hobbie i kept was working out because im pretty much addicted to that. However since things started taking a turn i started spending more time doing the things I love.. like playing golf, playing baseball again, hanging out and getting my friends back that i neglected. Slowly my world became her... what i did revolved around her. I changed my attitude to make her happy. I left everything i learned slip away. Its not just about picking up the chick overall its about being happy.
 

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well it looks like you're back on your feet. Now stop naming your **** ups and think positive.
 

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Cougar10033 said:
Well i have been on this site for years!!! It seems like while im single i live by the bible. Even when i first starte my relationships i follow the bible. But in my last 2 relationships at some point i honestly forget everything???? I am still in my current relationship for over a year and a half but things have been pissing me off lately with the way things are going. I come to this site and its like an eye opener. I have been doing everything wrong and like a tape on rewind im getting the same results. DO you guys think its to late in the relationship to go back to the way i acted when we first started dating... or would a next and rebuild be better?

See, I'm an entertainer. All the little manipulation techniques and little bits that I've learned can sometimes go out the window when you fall for a woman.

I believe that part of the trick is to keep working at it. When you find yourself slipping into the overly nice category for example, you have to bring yourself back, remember some of what you've learned and use it if it's benificial to who you are or want to be as a strong man of integrity.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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