How do you find your version of happiness?

[BckInThG]

I've been single now for about a year, I'm almost 30, and in that year I've come a long way in terms of self development and am at a point where I want to improve my ability to meet women I can enjoy being with. Problem is I need to figure out what makes me happy and how do I find a woman who can compliment my life. What's step one to really know what makes you happy? I don't have anything I really can say is my passion, I don't know why but I've always felt that I missed out on whatever that is that everyone else seems to have. I do have career goals and am going to school to accomplish that, I am financially stable and fairly secure with who I am. That said, I'm in a situation dating wise where I dont even know what to do with myself. I'm in a small town and it's the kind where everyone knows everyone else or is related or whatever and I am not at all interested in anything here except the college girls but even then, they are so much younger, I dont even know what to do with that. I'm not from here either, which is about 45 minutes from any real city so I went to Tinder and Bumble which at this point are just depressing. I know I have bad pictures because I just dont get the vanity aspect of social media, I truly just don't and maybe that's something I need to adopt but I think it's so shallow. Additionally I'm sure if I had a pro take some pics it would work out better because I have a good idea of where my looks are at from what people have told me with no solicitation at all. Still even that feels vain, but again maybe I need to reformat my thinking. Anyway, I've had some convos but nothing has clicked and I dont have the time to go out day to day with school and work and even if i did, while I'm confident in myself for the most part, I dont really have a good cold approach game so that makes just going to the surrounding cities alone, seriously no one I'm friends with is interested in venturing over 5 miles from town, a tougher task than I'm used to. Finally, what do I do to really find what makes me happy in a relationship? I'd like to have kids, I've had an LTR and dated a ton, partied a lot, so I have experience but with all this reading I don't quite have my game plan figured out yet. I hate not being able to just go out on a whim to meet women and I'd rather date somewhat younger women to avoid some of the drama and redefine my goals with dating. What's a good endgame? Just perpetually dating woman after woman? What are the merits of settling down from your perspective? Should I just write off OLD and sack up and get out there on the weekends? Sorry for the run on, just putting out a feeler more so I can get these thoughts out of my head but any insight would be great, thanks.