"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How do you dump a girl decently

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I've read a lot of post on this forum, but I very rarely seen one about dumping a girl, which is also a part of being a dj if you ask me, therefor I wanted to start a post about it, just post the way you would dump a girl, though you don't wanna have a fight over it, and if you see her again, you don't want her smacking your face. :whistle:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Credos

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:up: Will give that a shot, you think they would mind you going out with others right after you said that :D ?
 

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just say that you have something more important to do and that you have no time to invest in a relationship...

say sorry that you made her expect theings blah, blah...

thats the way i do it..
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Shezz said:
Simple. Just tell her that your not quite ready for anything yet, but you think that she is an amazing friend, and you want to keep that friendship going for along time.

If she is into you, she will accept this, believing that she maybe able to convert you in the future.

Sarge On...
This is good but I would drop the "not quite ready" part. The last thing you want to do is give a girl hope when there is none. This is especially true if she crosses your path while you are are in mid pick-up with a HB. Not a pretty sight...
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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tell her on the phone that this relatioship is going no where and that I need my space from you. do this and theres no way she can slap you.
 
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send her an e mail and tell her you dont want to see her no more

or tell her welcome to dumpsville, population: you..... i heard that one in the simpsons
 

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I like your question.

If you don't intend to have a long term relationship with a girl then be upfront about it. That way you will never have to dump her.

Always be honest and respectful to her.

At the end of the day dumping a girl decently requires you treat her decently all the time.

And this is key to being a REAL DJ.

JJ
 

st_99

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start acting extremely AFC, tell her you lover her 35 times a day, bring her roses, tell her you can't live without her and that life would'nt be worth living without her. She'll dump you..problem solved.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Or do as I did when I had had enough of the b!tch : Pack your bags and leave the country without telling her. ;)
 

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Credos,

evaluate carefully every reply. I don't like many of them, because a girl can ruin your reputation. So be careful. You should have shown her from start.

A good thing to do is to invert role. Have you ever been dumped by a girl?
They usually start by "We must talk together..." This is to reduce the pain you see? "I've been thinking of us..." "We have to think about..." and the list goes on.

good luck.
 

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thanks for the many replies guys, the more replies the better, I think this wil not only help me but many other DJs, considering that there aren't really posts about dumping a girl decently... :)

ciao
 
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