"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How do you dump a BPD?

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My BPD is somewhat friends with a bunch of my friends. Most of the dudes just want to **** her, I don't think any of my female friends actually like her and a lot of the dudes realize she's insane. Her best friend's dad is a professor that I work with.

She's the vengeful kind of girl when it comes to breakups, unfortunately. With the beginning of the semester quickly approaching, I have no real interest in continuing to date this girl as she's a manipulative b1tch who needs a bf-psychiatrist in order to have a relationship.

So, what do I do? How do I let 'er down gently? Or is this even possible?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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One surefire way would be to treat her like gold. Do EVERYTHING she wants you to. Smother her with attention. Tell her you love her until she can't stand you anymore.

If she's BPD, I guarantee she'll be cheating on you in a month. And then she'll be some other guy's problem.
 

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Uberguy said:
One surefire way would be to treat her like gold. Do EVERYTHING she wants you to. Smother her with attention. Tell her you love her until she can't stand you anymore.

If she's BPD, I guarantee she'll be cheating on you in a month. And then she'll be some other guy's problem.
haha, I've been doing just that for 3 months now. she is completely enamored by me, it doesn't make sense.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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although, nvm, she kissed this girl without me being there last week. i told her that i'm not gonna get in the way of her bisexuality and want her to explore it as much as possible so long as i'm there. unfortunately, she just went hysterical, started saying i'm the only one she wants, and that it was a massive mistake. threesome attempt failed.
 

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I have no real interest in continuing to date this girl


Which is ironically why she is drawn to you. BPDs get off on abandonment, so they choose men who are inevitably going to leave them. If the guy doesn't leave, they try to drive him away and then just leave themselves if necessary. Re-experiencing traumatic childhood abandonment is the point of her existence.
 

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Bible_Belt said:
I have no real interest in continuing to date this girl


Which is ironically why she is drawn to you. BPDs get off on abandonment, so they choose men who are inevitably going to leave them. If the guy doesn't leave, they try to drive him away and then just leave themselves if necessary. Re-experiencing traumatic childhood abandonment is the point of her existence.
I kind of want to hurt this girl yet I'm afraid of the backlash. Last week, when I basically broke up with her (but then made up 8 hours later), she came running out to my car sobbing as I left. I don't want her ****ing my best friend/wingman with NPD. I feel as if this is an inevitability at this point, though. I'm gonna lose my best friend to this girl and this is the main reason I haven't broken up with her yet. I've wanted to break up with her ever since I first ****ed her. I knew she was completely bat**** insane.

I wish I never brought this c you n t into my life.
 

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I mean, as an example of how much of a rotten ***** this girl is, she jokingly (as if you can joke about this) said I have "daddy issues" when my dad died a few weeks ago. What a rotten creature.
 
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snowdog- i think BPD stands for Bipolar Disorder.

I didn't know it's so common. I've only met one girl that is like that, but it wasn't clinically confirmed.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Bible_Belt said:
I have no real interest in continuing to date this girl


Which is ironically why she is drawn to you. BPDs get off on abandonment, so they choose men who are inevitably going to leave them. If the guy doesn't leave, they try to drive him away and then just leave themselves if necessary. Re-experiencing traumatic childhood abandonment is the point of her existence.
To the OP- read BibleBelt's words and believe.
The point here is that you can't just breakup with a BPD woman because the breakup itself triggers all manner of demons in her. If you dump her she will soon draw you back in with the sweetest sex of all until you are hooked and landed, and then her crazy shyte will re-emerge because her fear of intimacy will drive her towards another breakup. So she starts to act badly, cheats, lies, picks fights, insults or humiliates you to create drama and an eventual separation ...Soon after you breakup with her again she will feel the pain of 'abandonment' and then she will reel you back in again - and the cycle repeats . Remember this - sex is a BPD woman's weapon of choice.
Unless you really enjoy sex with a wackjob on a rollercoaster, you need to do what ever you have to do to remove this creature from your life.
 

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Correction guys
BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder.
its similar symptom presentation as in Bipolar Disorder, but BPD is more intense, unstable, chaotic, impulsive, violent, manipulative, fears of abandonment, suicide manipulation attempts and suicide attempts, irritable, feelings of emptiness, low self esteem, thinks black and white, loves you today, hates you tomorrow, and can become psychotic like under stress

so if you tell her you gonna leave her, be ready for hell.
 

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blueline said:
My BPD is somewhat friends with a bunch of my friends. Most of the dudes just want to **** her, I don't think any of my female friends actually like her and a lot of the dudes realize she's insane. Her best friend's dad is a professor that I work with.

She's the vengeful kind of girl when it comes to breakups, unfortunately. With the beginning of the semester quickly approaching, I have no real interest in continuing to date this girl as she's a manipulative b1tch who needs a bf-psychiatrist in order to have a relationship.

So, what do I do? How do I let 'er down gently? Or is this even possible?

I have had the exact same problem with this girl. For a long time I wanted to break up with my ex but she would say things like "so-and-so broke up today, I hope we never break up, I honestly don't know what I would do, probably cut myself", etc. Looking back now, I think she was bluffing. Anyways, what I did is I took my time away from her, so she'd constantly yell on the phone about not giving her enough time and to which I tell her "we'll talk when you are in a better mood". Me spending less and less time with her had gotten her extremely psychotic, we broke up once, she found another dude they went out and made out. That was my window to fully leave. She did try to get back at me by telling people things I told her about my private life and my friends private lives. She still contacts me using a private number and doesn't say anything.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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jophil28 said:
To the OP- read BibleBelt's words and believe.
The point here is that you can't just breakup with a BPD woman because the breakup itself triggers all manner of demons in her. If you dump her she will soon draw you back in with the sweetest sex of all until you are hooked and landed, and then her crazy shyte will re-emerge because her fear of intimacy will drive her towards another breakup. So she starts to act badly, cheats, lies, picks fights, insults or humiliates you to create drama and an eventual separation ...Soon after you breakup with her again she will feel the pain of 'abandonment' and then she will reel you back in again - and the cycle repeats . Remember this - sex is a BPD woman's weapon of choice.
Unless you really enjoy sex with a wackjob on a rollercoaster, you need to do what ever you have to do to remove this creature from your life.

pipe007 said:
Correction guys
BPD stands for Borderline Personality Disorder.
its similar symptom presentation as in Bipolar Disorder, but BPD is more intense, unstable, chaotic, impulsive, violent, manipulative, fears of abandonment, suicide manipulation attempts and suicide attempts, irritable, feelings of emptiness, low self esteem, thinks black and white, loves you today, hates you tomorrow, and can become psychotic like under stress

so if you tell her you gonna leave her, be ready for hell.
Jesus f*cking Christ on a horse.

That sh*t is crazy.
 

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snowdog said:
Nobody likes a wise guy.
Snowdog I don't think either of us can really say that lol
 

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jophil28 said:
The point here is that you can't just breakup with a BPD woman because the breakup itself triggers all manner of demons in her.
I knew Jophil would get to it before I did.
You don't break up with them. Because even if you do, they'll find a way for you to take them back and then destroy piece by piece... of your soul.


If you dump her she will soon draw you back in with the sweetest sex of all until you are hooked and landed, and then her crazy shyte will re-emerge because her fear of intimacy will drive her towards another breakup. So she starts to act badly, cheats, lies, picks fights, insults or humiliates you to create drama and an eventual separation ...Soon after you breakup with her again she will feel the pain of 'abandonment' and then she will reel you back in again - and the cycle repeats . Remember this - sex is a BPD woman's weapon of choice.
Unless you really enjoy sex with a wackjob on a rollercoaster, you need to do what ever you have to do to remove this creature from your life.
Just introduce her to the horniest friend you have, which is probably the guy you like the least.

Unfortunately, you might have to "Release the Kraken" on someone else.
With BPD's it doesn't matter how you act, they are a boomerang and eventually will snap right back around to you, whether you dump them or they dump you.
 

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Nobody likes a wise guy.
Chill, dude :). I didn't intend to be condescending with my comment, 'twas just some innocent sarcasm.
 
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Why? I heard the sex is crazy ....JP op, good luck lol. Think you might have to go the "horniest friend you have" route. Release the Kraken!

lmao
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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