"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How do you draw the line when Pushing/Pulling?

venser

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I find myself in a really awkward position. in one of my classes there are two girls, a HB9 and a HB7or8 that I am gaming. Both of them, i am pretty sure are somewhat interested in me. (though HOW interested, i have no clue). ANyways, at first i thought it would be a breeze picking them both up and using them against eachother for social proof and Push/Pull.

However, the problem i now have is that while I can give one attention and then take it away (as dictated in Push/Pull) easily by talking to the other girl the next day or at the break or wahtever i am this problem where I can't find the balance between giving someone enough attention so that they know i am interested and giving them attention and then taking it away.

Sorry if i dont make any sense, its really hard for me to verbalize what i am trying to say.

So like its important to show the girl your interested, and at the same time its important to take your attention away from her. How do I draw the line? I think this is killing me here and i am in danger of being friend-zoned.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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ready123

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what you're doing is called a jealousy plot line

the whole point of that, push-pull, social proof is to attract the girl enough that you can ask her out OR isolate her.

which of the girls do you like more? when are you planning to ask her out? or are you just gonna practice your attraction game indefinately?
 

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Quit trying to play little games, pick one and proceed. After you f-close one, you'll have a better chance with the other, if you're trying to get them both. If you are into these games, f-close the one you like least first, then use her in the plotline to get the one you really want.
 

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ahh icic. what if I don't know which one i like more? hmm.

i really dont know what I want out of this.
 
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