How do you display high value??

[movistar]

I have trouble displaying high value....
I always find myself trying to build myself up to chicks, and trying to get in good with them instead of the other way around...-

How do you guys display high value through conversation??

 

[mahoney]

people can help with this, but they will need to know the answer to this question first:

"what is high value about you?"

 

[f283000]

How do you guys display high value through conversation??

You need to radically change the way you have conversations with women. You need to go from being the average nice guy she talks to on a daily basis trying to maker her feel good to being a challenging, disagreeable, interesting guy that is different from the rest.

It's quite simple.

Disagree with women and do it often: Yes I know it probably goes against what you been brought up with but it's how you display to a woman that you are not just another puppy dog trying to make her feel good about herself. I learned this from the how to be the bad boy women love course.

If she says something you don't agree with it don't just nod your head and and keep smiling, call her out on it!

Give your opinion and do it often even if she might not like it (even better if she doesn't): The key to an interesting conversation is to do and say things that are out of the norm. The key to you being interesting yourself is saying and doing things that may be out of the norm. Don't hold back anything.

Those are 2 of the things I do but the number 1 thing I do is using disconnects (disagreeing with them being the most commonly used one). Every new woman I meet I let them talk and try to find something to disagree with them on, then give her my opinion on it.

"Now Jennifer, that's an interesting take on ______, however, I disagree with it and here's why. bla bla bla bla"

It's a simple concept. Using disconnects to create attraction. Women are not used to guys disagreeing with them. Women are used to guys trying to make them feel good during conversations in the hopes of getting in her pants one day. It's how I used to talk to women and always wondered why a**holes who talk to women in a totally different way were banging them and not me!

Set yourself apart and start doing the opposite of what you have been doing in conversations with women up to now.

 

[mahoney]

movistar, if you are unable to display to the forum why/how you have high value then how are we to help you display this high value to girls?

 

[Konada]

Here's my opinion on your situation, you need to stop treating gaming chicks as a science (DHV, NLP etc) all the things PUAs pull. The highest value you can show to you is by sorting out your life and improve on yourself. Get busy with activities, work towards whatever you want to achieve, the natural solid confidence that comes with it will automatically be conveyed in your tone and chicks can pick this up. Have a solid confidence about yourself and your views, things like disagreeing on topics will come naturally. Rock solid confidence vey much DHVs yourself without even you speaking, that's what sets you apart from the male wussies roaming the planet.

 

[phatboi408]

Everything you do. DHV, tease, social proof, the way you dress. etc. can display high value. It's all in the state of mind.

 

[Rogue]

One subtle truism:

Say less. Condense your lexicon of words into the smallest space possible to convey the grandest of ideas. Be laconic. Succinct. Poetic. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. Also, master the "pregnant pause."

 

[Atom Smasher]

Here's my opinion on your situation, you need to stop treating gaming chicks as a science (DHV, NLP etc) all the things PUAs pull. The highest value you can show to you is by sorting out your life and improve on yourself. Get busy with activities, work towards whatever you want to achieve, the natural solid confidence that comes with it will automatically be conveyed in your tone and chicks can pick this up. Have a solid confidence about yourself and your views, things like disagreeing on topics will come naturally. Rock solid confidence vey much DHVs yourself without even you speaking, that's what sets you apart from the male wussies roaming the planet.

Solid.

Are you really 18?

 

[Konada]

Yes I am 18 for that matter. This site has more to it than just picking up chicks if one decides to look beyond it's face value.

 

[Atom Smasher]

One subtle truism:

Say less. Condense your lexicon of words into the smallest space possible to convey the grandest of ideas. Be laconic. Succinct. Poetic. Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less. Also, master the "pregnant pause."

Excellent advice.

I have been slipping in this lately and it's a great reminder. It all helps in maintaining that air of mystery.

 

[thevilittletroll]

there a couple of ways to DHV, the one thats most common is with telling stories to the girl and include details about how your ex gf was a stripper, a model, or actress. your job is high status and you are in a leadership position. you stand up and protect the women you date. thats all basic stuff, this can be done but i have found it is the least effective way to DHV. most guys screw this up and it sounds like bragging.

i found a better way is to have your wingman do an accomplishment intro on you. in other words he tells the story for you, then you come in and join the party. anytime a chick you want to game hears a DHV from someone else, its much better. 3rd party DHV, doesnt have to be from your wingman, could be one of her friends, or whoever. think about how many people that have hooked up say, we met through mutual friends. thats where it comes from.

the best form of a DHV is if she observes you portraying high value characteristics. this is where body language is very important. good appearance yes, not overly important, but helpful. she sees you being the center of your social circle, laughing, having a good time, being the leader, the alpha dog. she sees you talking to other hot girls and gaming them successfully. she sees that other hot women enjoy your company. she sees other hot women touch you and can see that they also are interested in sex with you. that gives her some competition. you must act as if you are the alpha male in the room, and that every chick is already attracted to you. you must act as if having 10 hot women around you is normal and happens all the time. if brad pitt walked into a bar, how would he act? thats high value, thats how you act. its easier said then done, but a little bit of practice, and you will see massive results.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Let's not forget conveying ambition.

Convey ambition to her and she will equate it with money. That's one way we can leverage the "backward rationalization" hamster running in her brain.

Take this one to the bank, boys. Ambition = Actual Money (in her perception).

 

[supremacy]

you must act as if you are the alpha male in the room, and that every chick is already attracted to you. you must act as if having 10 hot women around you is normal and happens all the time. if brad pitt walked into a bar, how would he act? thats high value, thats how you act. its easier said then done, but a little bit of practice, and you will see massive results.

Very true, great post. However;

It is one thing being the alpha male in a room and acting the big stuff but it is another getting results......a lot of women I find are intimidated by by actions and feel I am arrogant in my actions.

This gets you lots of attention but not the lays you crave. Its like with the hot body 10's....they will not have as much lays as you would think because they are arrogant and will not give most people a second look. The EGO factor. Also, a lot of people feel scared about approaching them.

There must be a fine line between acting the part and inviting them in for a role so to speak. And that I have not mastered and that is not easy!

 

[DonGorgon]

1. looks
2. Money

^^^thats 95% of most womens value system now..:yes: :yes:

 

[Voice]

If you're not having fun, you're doing it wrong. Don't take females so seriously. Stop trying to impress and start focusing on amusing yourself.

Girls are NOT to be taken seriously.