how do you differiantiate from LOVE and one-itis?

[_sideways_]

Im in the middle right now. ....

I know there are boobs, asses, legs, hips, everywhere I go ..but I like this girl....

 

[C00lAF]

You maintain your frame and proceed accordingly

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

There is no difference.

 

[Slash Dolo]

Don't worry about it and do what you want. If she's cool, stay around and see only her. If she turns into a b*tch, bounce. That simple.

 

[Jetleg]

Onenitis is acting needy and like you got no other options.

Love doesn't exists in relationships. A women will only fall in love with what you are bringing - money, fun, humor, sex and whatever

 

[Desdinova]

Love is a two way street. One-itis or infatuation is a one way street.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Love takes time to build.

One-it-is is mostly intense physical attraction and infatuation. See those can develop instantly without knowing anything at all about the person.

Love on the other hand is caring about the individual for WHO they are and what makes them up. It takes time to build love.

The feelings for one-it-is are "real", but it really is intense physical attraction. You should be focused on creating that level of lust and desire in females and not one-it-is ing them.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Oneitis or infatuation is:
-Irrational.
-Psychologically/emotionally/verbally based.
-Unwavering and constant even in the face of rejection.
-Expectant and unrealistic.
-Tangible and material.

Love is:
-Rational (despite what Hollywood and Disney describe).
-Based on behaviour.
-Prone to fluctuation and transience.
-Expects nothing and borne in realism.
-Intangible and immaterial.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Love is a two way street. One-itis or infatuation is a one way street.

this

love is mutual , oneitis is where you cant have her but force yourself into believing you can

 

[mrgoodstuff]

this

love is mutual , oneitis is where you cant have her but force yourself into believing you can

In oneitis we focus on our strong "desire" for her and not concerned about her "desire" for us. So it ends up the oneitis feels things that the target does not feel. Oneitis is not efficient communication and not being in control of yourself. It's illogical and whatever you have to do to get past it will make your life better. Let THEM feel oneitis when you are the hot bod in the room with charisma, charm, power, etc.

 

[RangerMIke]

There is no difference.

This. It's the same thing. The only cure is to date more women so that you are not thinking about ONE all the time.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

This. It's the same thing. The only cure is to date more women so that you are not thinking about ONE all the time.

Basically get something else to do that you are focused on. And the side benefit is she may notice you are distant and into whatever you are doing and strangely get attracted.

 

[Roober]

Love is a two way street. One-itis or infatuation is a one way street.

Best and simplest answer!

 

[Atom Smasher]

Oneitis comes packaged within love. It is unavoidable.

Love is NOT rational. But it is still necessary for human existence. A man can love a woman selflessly, but not children. A woman can love a child selflessly, but not a man.

That is the reality. In my opinion, contrary to much opinion on this board, these are not reasons not to love.

Love will always involve risk and sacrifice. The downsides can be largely offset by establishing dominance early and maintaining it, with a woman who values your dominance and discipline. There are more women who crave a man's discipline that one might think.

I think it is a huge mistake to get married before the age of 40. Women have their heads completely up their asses until about that age, when they start to learn humility. I'm 59, have never been married, and seriously considering marriage at this point because I've found a woman who is seriously above average in class, looks, and submissiveness. I've been around the block in my life, and this one is several cuts above.

The trick is to find a woman who values femininity and wants to fulfill that role IRL. They are rare but they exist. A man's love for a woman will always be sacrificial and far more unconditional that hers is for him. This is nature. It should not stop a man from loving an exceptional women, because an exceptional woman will love a man more deeply if he maintains dominance. This is the conditional part of love. A woman can only love a man whom she perceives as superior to her. It's the wiring; the way it works. Don't let the wiring cause you to be cynical and deprive your life of love.

There is a certain satisfaction in developing oneself as a man who is worthy of a superior woman's love. It is possible to stay one step ahead of her, to keep her in fear of losing you. All I learned about this, I learned here at SS. I learned the rules (the training wheels), then shed the training wheels and customized the principles to my own personality in order to make them work for me, rather than my working for them, which is necessary at first. Now the SS principles are tools and levers that I can depend on do manifest the effects I want to manifest.

C0cky/funny, push/pull, dread game, dominance, mysteriousness, negs, and all the other tools that are discussed here are used clumsily by most at first, but they eventually become integrated into a system that works when used enough and integrated in a calibrated way into your personality. The result: You are qualified to love a woman because you understand the game and the dynamic, and you understand that nature is not fair. It is the man's lot to sacrifice. It is the superior man's job to learn how to sacrifice for high yield.

 

[El Payaso]

No such thing as love.

 

[Atom Smasher]

To some. To others, there certainly is.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

To some. To others, there certainly is.

Family.

 

[daddymonsterpoodle]

It kinda seems like arguing over what is the difference brtween tbrush and an STD. Different causes but the symptoms are the same.

 

[Infern0]

Oneitis is unhealthy, it's an infatuation, an obsession, it stops you from thinking straight. It's straight poison.

Love is "this girl is awesome, I'm perfectly satisfied with her, don't need anyone else"

Love is calm

Love is also you still thinking straight

 

[BreezyB84]

I would like to the cures for "oneitis" and what to do if you think you might be coming down with it.