How do you deal with women hating on you?

[Brighty]

Keeping this short, I had a FB/fling over the summer and she ended up getting too attached to me and I tried to let her down as easy as possible, but she ended up getting hurt etc, drama. Again, I tried to be as nice as I could to her and as gentle as I could about it, and I thought we were cool when it was all said and done - like she was still nice to me and texts me. So college starts up again and we're both back and we have mutual friends. Last night I was partying with my friends and I had the unfortunate occasion to run into three of her friends at three separate parties. Each one of them flew off the handle at me, literally on one occasion I was just leaving an apartment, saw a girl friend that I knew, went up and greeted her and all of a sudden one of my FB's mutual friends just runs up to me and yells at me in front of everyone, calling me a douchebag before running off. The friend that I went to greet followed her, leaving me dumbfounded and embarrassed in front of a room of people I don't even know.

Flash forward fifteen minutes later and we're at another party and I'm meeting girls with my friend, and I meet these two girls and we're just making small talk and all of a sudden one of them said "Oh, aren't you the guy who dated <name>?" and she gave me the dirtiest look and whispered something into her friend's ear and her friend glared at me and they both turned around and walked away. My buddy just kind of stands there and is like "dude, what the **** did you do?" and I honestly don't know. I'm not a **** towards women, I'm a nice guy and it just ****ing pisses me off that I dont even know these girls and they hate me.

I didn't even know how to respond to any of these occasions, again, I'm not a nice guy in the sense of an AFC, but I try to be a gentlemen I don't want to be known as a douchebag. I don't know, it just really infuriates me considering earlier that day I actually got lunch with my FB/fling and everything seemed fine. I mean I can understand if I had like abused her or done something horrible but this kind of treatment is a little intense, it makes me wonder how much she built up or exaggerated our "problems" to her friends.

Do you guys have any tips or advice for handling this? I'm inevitably going to see them again on campus and at parties, I'd like to avoid that kind of **** ruining my night.

 

[Iceberg]

If you tell a girl "Don't talk s**t on me." then obviously, it'll just get worse. So keep living and enjoying life. You gotta stay above all the trash talk. Ignore that stuff. If a girl gets in your face, you just gotta treat her like the clown she is and laugh it off. Act like you're better than they are....because you are. Next time some angry girl gets in your face at a party, just smile and offer her a drink.

When "angry chick" sees that you're still out there smiling, laughing and having fun, she'll realize that her efforts to hurt you have failed, and she'll move on. So will her douchey friends.

 

[wasted-nick]

I think when they asked if you were the guy 'dating' so and so, you should have replied "actually I was just fvcking her. You want some too?"

Stand tall head forward... Who knows what trash she's talking, but don't take 5hit from her or her friends.

 

[Brighty]

****.... I can't tell you how disappointing is to finally realize just how two-faced women can be. Seriously, I ended up seeing my FB/Fling (karma?) walking back to my dorm at like 2am and she asked me if I wanted to go hang out with her in her room. I just told her "No." and when she asked why I explained what had happened earlier that night and told her she won't be getting ****ed by me anymore and that if she's telling all of her friends that I am a douchebag to her then I might as well be. I left her crying on a bench, it didn't feel good, but I said what I needed to say.

 

[wasted-nick]

I suppose my last response was a bit less than compassionate, so I'm just gonna' add this...

Clearly she has feelings for you. She wouldn't have talked 5hit about you if she did not care about the situation. It seems she wanted/wants more than to be just FB's... It sounds as though she's pretty young too - 20 or younger I bet??

I think all you can do at this point is to try to stay away. Continuing anything with this girl will be misinterpreted by her as a sign of your continued interest in her. It does suck for her, but it is a lesson learned.

All you can do is be a decent guy about it and little else. Just don't go sniffin' back around there anymore unless you want to create more drama.

 

[Alien]

Just tell me why you tried to be a gentleman?
Lets say a young girl comes to you at a party and tries too seduce you into bed.
You dont want to bang her cause she is to young.
Explain her gently why you dont want to fvck her and you two could be good friend and the next day the whole town will be laughting at you(like you described in your post) and you are just looking: "WTF???"

...or tell her "What the fvck do you want from me girly? I dont talk to ugly girls like you!!".
And the next day you gonna see girls whispering into each others ear and pointing at you, smiling at you.

I dont really know why is it but you have to do the 2nd option all the time.
You can practice your gentleness on your girl . . . friends...

 

[zekko]

I've had some female friends of my ex give me a hard time. She still talks a lot of sh!t about me from what I hear. Some of it fair, some of it not fair, some of it I actually like that she's spreading around. Anyway, I just explained my side of it, remained calm, friendly, and charming, and they got over it quickly. Now they're very friendly when they see me.

 

[Brighty]

Thanks for the replies guys, does anyone else have any other one-liners or comebacks when girls start giving you ****? Like good examples of things that just totally say "I don't give a **** what you're saying" or like even playfully negging her about what she's saying to make it look like you're always in control of the situation?