How do you deal with the passive type?

[Lost In the Seas]

How do u deal with a girl that is very passive, the type that wants the boys to do ALL the the approaches?

That seems understandable since some females prefer the men to be the absolute dominant controller of the relationship.

But by making too many moves wouldn't it be obvious that you are desperate and very interested in the girl, leading her to believe that she has gotten control of your heart which elinminates the chase factor that drives the girl to be crazy for you.

I see a conflict of idealogies here and wonder how you resolve this.

 

[lugsy211]

Good question. I have absolutely no idea how to deal with the"passive" type of girl but would like to know.

 

[ICaughtFire]

bump

 

[Fitch]

The best method is to go with it initially, and then simply talk to her. Tell her you think it's sexy if a girl takes some action, etc.

If you can't be upfront about it, then take an alternate approach by making "games" like the one mentioned below.

Give her a challenge to do. Make sure it will include initiating things a guy would normally have to.

This is the basic approach to this situation.

P.S. As long as you don't hold the "aggressive' for too long, there will not be any conflict in ideology. Normally, it is normal if a male takes more initiative in the beginning, thus no conflict.

 

[Lost In the Seas]

does the two steps forward, one step back works??

that way you are making slow advances, but not going agressive all the way, it makes you unpredicatable and make the girl more intersted and anticipated in what you are going to do next.

 

[Fitch]

Originally posted by Lost In the Seas
does the two steps forward, one step back works??

that way you are making slow advances, but not going aggressive all the way, it makes you unpredictable and make the girl more intersted and anticipated in what you are going to do next.

Yes, try that; but, she may be very "patient," thus she won't jump in. But, it is still possible; it depends on how excited she is.

Just remember, you will have to be the dominant one for a while until you can open her up with the suggestions I made (or, even yours).

But to answer your question specificially, "does the...method...work...?" No, it's very risky because it can even lose her interest (this only applies IF you not dating her, yet). Once you guys enter a relationship, making slow advances to tease her, with the intentions of getting her to act is one of the ways to solve this problem.

 

[Lost In the Seas]

Oh rite, ya we are officialy not dating yet, the last two movies we wathced were strictly just hanging out as friends.

We flirted, we talked about sexual experience, she constantly tries to make me jealous telling stories about her flirting or guys wanting her, i have nothing to reply about that so i just tell her stories of how i flirted with girls lol

i think the game between us right now is teasing eachother and see which one gives in first to take the initiative to start the relationship. I guess it sounds very immature and i finally concluded it is time for the man to stand up to be the dominant male

i think she is interested in me, so i think it is safe bet for me to approach her in our next hang out. I will start by kino, grabbing her forearm gently to go into a shop, take out her hand and comment on the bracelet, ring, then play her hair and gently touch her face etc

if all goes well i will try to make a right moment of opportunity and kiss her.

 

[Fitch]

You have the right idea. Go for it, man!

Good luck, and tell us how it goes.