Basically, last year I wasnt really socialable with the girls and that kind of distanced me from them. Do you think they would resent me or think I'm weird when I try to initiate conversation and flirt because they've never seen that side of me before or what? And how do you deal with the girls who don't like you or used to not give you the time of day? Just with the "**** em" mentality?
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How do you deal with the girls that DONT like you?
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nicenomore
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STOP THINKING
see when you go in and talk to them.. yopu dont start thinking about what they think of you , what they are thinking of you etc...Any one who does that will be blown away.. The reason is that you are not focussed on the conversation...
Listen the girls never really did think negative of you... You kept your trap shut , and thats important ... 'cuz you didnt speak anything wrong. They are neutral to you. And for those who think you're a loner , they will talk to you ... no problem... seriously...how bad can it get???
Here's an exercise.. Do it...
go in your school and say Hi and initiate small talk with the first five girls of your school and then five more girls , who in your opinion think you are a retard or have a negative opinion about you
Tell me the results tomorrow
see when you go in and talk to them.. yopu dont start thinking about what they think of you , what they are thinking of you etc...Any one who does that will be blown away.. The reason is that you are not focussed on the conversation...
Listen the girls never really did think negative of you... You kept your trap shut , and thats important ... 'cuz you didnt speak anything wrong. They are neutral to you. And for those who think you're a loner , they will talk to you ... no problem... seriously...how bad can it get???
Here's an exercise.. Do it...
go in your school and say Hi and initiate small talk with the first five girls of your school and then five more girls , who in your opinion think you are a retard or have a negative opinion about you
Tell me the results tomorrow
Kev07
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Well no, they probably wont' think you're weird just because you talk to them. then again fit hey don't like you, then theres no reason why you would watn to talk to them.
Pretty much, do what nicenomore says, it's pretty solid.
Pretty much, do what nicenomore says, it's pretty solid.
GaryUranga
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personally I always give girls who dont liek me that "**** it" attitude, but yeah dont even mind what they think about you.
If you didn't talk to them, how are you so sure they don't like you.
Look, it is NEVER too late to change. Start talking to them now, and what is the worst they can happen?
The worst case scenario is before. (And hey, it's not even all that bad.)
Girl: Hey, you used to be so quiet before..
Guy: Well hey, you did yourself!
Girl: Did not!
Guy: Or maybe you were just too shy to talk to me. It's okay, happens to some girls... it's okay to admit you were too shy to talk to me.
Girl: I was not shy!
Guy: Okay okay, whatever you say. Hey, want to go to the movies this weekend?
If she asks why you used to be shy before, change the topic.. or tell her that she never knew you because she never actually talked to you. Views can ALWAYS be changed. I remember there was this one girl who used to think I was a "player" and she didn't like me for some personal reasons. After one month, SHE asked me out. Yes, she asked me out. Can you believe it? Women are weird, their views always change.. go figure.
Be confident, ****y, funny, and you will be fine with the those ladies. Let us know how it goes; good luck!
Look, it is NEVER too late to change. Start talking to them now, and what is the worst they can happen?
The worst case scenario is before. (And hey, it's not even all that bad.)
Girl: Hey, you used to be so quiet before..
Guy: Well hey, you did yourself!
Girl: Did not!
Guy: Or maybe you were just too shy to talk to me. It's okay, happens to some girls... it's okay to admit you were too shy to talk to me.
Girl: I was not shy!
Guy: Okay okay, whatever you say. Hey, want to go to the movies this weekend?
If she asks why you used to be shy before, change the topic.. or tell her that she never knew you because she never actually talked to you. Views can ALWAYS be changed. I remember there was this one girl who used to think I was a "player" and she didn't like me for some personal reasons. After one month, SHE asked me out. Yes, she asked me out. Can you believe it? Women are weird, their views always change.. go figure.
Be confident, ****y, funny, and you will be fine with the those ladies. Let us know how it goes; good luck!
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Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
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BRILLIANT post man.Sniper001 said:If you didn't talk to them, how are you so sure they don't like you.
Look, it is NEVER too late to change. Start talking to them now, and what is the worst they can happen?
The worst case scenario is before. (And hey, it's not even all that bad.)
Girl: Hey, you used to be so quiet before..
Guy: Well hey, you did yourself!
Girl: Did not!
Guy: Or maybe you were just too shy to talk to me. It's okay, happens to some girls... it's okay to admit you were too shy to talk to me.
Girl: I was not shy!
Guy: Okay okay, whatever you say. Hey, want to go to the movies this weekend?
If she asks why you used to be shy before, change the topic.. or tell her that she never knew you because she never actually talked to you. Views can ALWAYS be changed. I remember there was this one girl who used to think I was a "player" and she didn't like me for some personal reasons. After one month, SHE asked me out. Yes, she asked me out. Can you believe it? Women are weird, their views always change.. go figure.
Be confident, ****y, funny, and you will be fine with the those ladies. Let us know how it goes; good luck!