How do you deal with someone that just got out of a long-term relationship?

[kaitagsd]

I'm interested in this girl that just broke up with her boyfriend a month and a half ago or so. I met this girl off a friend, and we've went out twice, but I think if I don't start doing anything I will get friendzoned.

But what if she really isn't looking for a relationship? What if she says she wants to know a guy well enough before dating him? I am interested in her but I also don't want to develop oneitis (have done so before, doesn't end well). I just don't know when to start showing hints or just telling her straight up. BTW, she's a fairly conservative person, sort of on the shy side and quite passive.

 

[Joe Stud]

start movin, she will be looking for some fun about now. What part of "make the hoe say no" dont you understand? LOL

 

[bukowski_merit]

I'm interested in this girl that just broke up with her boyfriend a month and a half ago or so. I met this girl off a friend, and we've went out twice, but I think if I don't start doing anything I will get friendzoned.

Went out twice? And you haven't made any moves yet? Fvck that, after two dates - im making movies!

Any insight into what happened between them? Who broke up with who and why? This is important info to me.

But what if she really isn't looking for a relationship?

What a woman wants changes based on who she's talking to, and a girl on the "rebound" will change what she wants more often than her undergarments!

What if she says she wants to know a guy well enough before dating him?

Who cares what she says? Try things; if they don't work - move on. Much better than sitting there wondering....

READ THIS:

there are worse things than
being alone
but it often takes decades
to realize this
and most often
when you do
it's too late
and there's nothing worse
than
too late.

-Charles Bukowski

I am interested in her but I also don't want to develop oneitis (have done so before, doesn't end well).

Worrying about this will only make your actions weak.

I just don't know when to start showing hints or just telling her straight up.

2 dates ago!

BTW, she's a fairly conservative person, sort of on the shy side and quite passive.

Doesn't matter; that's what she's presenting to you because you are NOT secret society. Give her a man she feels is sexually experienced, who doesn't judge her, and can bring out her inner s!ut - and she'll be saying "i love you" in one week..... field tested!

 

[Lucifero]

Doesn't matter; that's what she's presenting to you because you are NOT secret society.

:nono:

wtf? Did you forget rule #1?

 

[Ease]

somebody broke rule #1...

amateur mistake..

 

[enrodrehern]

ok im lost.. how and what is rule #1? and why did bukowski break it? can someone elaborate

 

[Nemic]

If you haven't seen the Movie Fight club yet. Go and Buy/Rent/Download it Immediately, and watch it.