How do you deal with somebodies past?

[The_411]

This one screams BPD. It's not worth it no matter how deeply you are entrenched. This is coming from someone who dated a BPD girl for nearly two years and guess what she also hadn't been faithful with any boyfriend.

BPD/HPD/NPD can seem very together in their lives but their insanity comes from close interaction with others.

You've basically outlined most of DSM criteria as well as lot of unofficial traits that come from the BPD playbook.

The fact she hasn't been faithful with anyone should be a massive stop sign.

If you stay you're going to be wrecked and believe me it can take a long time to recover from.

 

[Blusher]

Her past is part of who she is. Although there's no guarantee she will or won't repeat similar behaviours, it seems reasonable to not just brush it off.

For all we know, maybe this girl would be better off in swinging relationship with a guy that fully embraces and digs her unsatiable appetites rather than one who worries about who she fvcked and where.

What do you think?

 

[Romjuan]

I just want to mention 2 things.
1. Watch the movie "chasing amy." its about a guy who cant get over a girls troubled (slutty) past...sound familiar?

2. Yes there is a double standard when it comes to guys having a large number of sexual partners and girls too. It IS ok for a man to have a large number of partners in our society because we all know, a majority of woman have resistance towards having casual sex.
For example, you may have heard when a good looking guy walks up to 10 girls and says "would you like to have sex?" 9 out of 10 girls will not only say NO but probably slap him. If a good looking girl does asks the same question to 10 guys, chances are 9 out of 10 would gladly say yes.

Eirgo, for a guy to get laid it takes some game and suavness. For a girl to get laid it takes 0 talent. Shes slutty. A girl having a high number of partners is nothing to be proud of because shes doing the same thing that the fat ***** down the street could do.

 

[HeMan]

daddy issues are a HUGE warning sign

my girlfriend of 1 year ended up losing control and attacking me. afterwards she admitted she is emotionally unstable after the lack of love she felt from her parents

 

[betheman]

daddy issues are a HUGE warning sign

my girlfriend of 1 year ended up losing control and attacking me. afterwards she admitted she is emotionally unstable after the lack of love she felt from her parents

Yeah Daddy issues...wasnt really aware of this until my latest ex! she didnt get the love from her Dad, she was an accident, she bad mouthed him, called him names, didnt respect him really....she in turn has a history of volatile relationships, terribly insecure, highly emotional and has a venomous vindictive streak. May not be the case for all girls but in future it will be something Ill be on the lookout for.

 

[ecko280]

my ex had daddy issue as well. and she was everything u guy mentioned. She also attacked me. BUT MAN DID SHE HAD A BODY!!!