thelastclap
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I dated this girl last year. We were around 15, now around age 16. During the time it was awesome and everything went well, but it lasted for only 2 months or so. She broke up with me because she felt as though we were just friends. So she said that we should just be friends. I asked a few questions to figure out what else was wrong, but there wasn't really anything. Then I agreed.
About 8 months go by... some contact in person like between classes or after school, but not much. I also became acquainted with her friends fairly well. She starts to approach me a few times, lightly flirting with me and some kino here and there.
Month later... we go on a field trip with the high school band for 4 days. The first night she complains how I haven't talked to her the whole time we've been there to my close friend. She also brings up how we don't talk much at all in general anymore. She approached me and we hit it off again, just like new! The next three days we are attached by the hip. We held hands, ate together, slept on the bus rides together, and everything was just like when we dated.
As we left, i asked her what she thought about dating again. She replied by saying that she wanted to hang out in the summer and see if she still liked me because we wasn't entirely sure. I agreed because I wanted to make it seem like I wasn't sure either, when actually I had been thinking about her everyday since she broke up with me.
We hang out over the summer twice, both dates were great and we lots of fun. It seemed as though things were working in my favor!
Now recently, we went to band camp, a week after the second date. The whole time at camp she didn't show much interest in me, we didn't really talk or hang much except for a few times in groups. I knew something was up.
The night before we left I asked her if she still felt the same way that she did on the field trip. Of course, like I suspected, she says no. And she was all apologetic and felt bad that she led me on. She said she wants to be friends again, because that's when she like us best (and from what I heard from others, it's when she's attracted to me most). Like before, I agreed to be friends, but I said I still wanted contact. I was/am heartbroken.
I doubt I'll keep contact with her outside of school.
I'm sure everyone has been in a similar situation. This girl is near-to-perfect. Has almost everything I want. I spent the last year and a half of my life on her and turned other girls down in the process. It is very hard to just throw that hard work all away. Especially when you don't feel attraction towards any other girls at your school or in your life.
From what I've heard, she goes back and forth from liking me and not liking me that she is just giving up now.
So Don Juan masters..
If I wanted to win her attraction back, what could I do?
When I try all the methods of moving on, I'm still stuck on her each day like those 8 months of no contact. I felt little to no progress during that time. And I am a very active person.
What are your thoughts on this whole situation?
About 8 months go by... some contact in person like between classes or after school, but not much. I also became acquainted with her friends fairly well. She starts to approach me a few times, lightly flirting with me and some kino here and there.
Month later... we go on a field trip with the high school band for 4 days. The first night she complains how I haven't talked to her the whole time we've been there to my close friend. She also brings up how we don't talk much at all in general anymore. She approached me and we hit it off again, just like new! The next three days we are attached by the hip. We held hands, ate together, slept on the bus rides together, and everything was just like when we dated.
As we left, i asked her what she thought about dating again. She replied by saying that she wanted to hang out in the summer and see if she still liked me because we wasn't entirely sure. I agreed because I wanted to make it seem like I wasn't sure either, when actually I had been thinking about her everyday since she broke up with me.
We hang out over the summer twice, both dates were great and we lots of fun. It seemed as though things were working in my favor!
Now recently, we went to band camp, a week after the second date. The whole time at camp she didn't show much interest in me, we didn't really talk or hang much except for a few times in groups. I knew something was up.
The night before we left I asked her if she still felt the same way that she did on the field trip. Of course, like I suspected, she says no. And she was all apologetic and felt bad that she led me on. She said she wants to be friends again, because that's when she like us best (and from what I heard from others, it's when she's attracted to me most). Like before, I agreed to be friends, but I said I still wanted contact. I was/am heartbroken.
I doubt I'll keep contact with her outside of school.
I'm sure everyone has been in a similar situation. This girl is near-to-perfect. Has almost everything I want. I spent the last year and a half of my life on her and turned other girls down in the process. It is very hard to just throw that hard work all away. Especially when you don't feel attraction towards any other girls at your school or in your life.
From what I've heard, she goes back and forth from liking me and not liking me that she is just giving up now.
So Don Juan masters..
If I wanted to win her attraction back, what could I do?
When I try all the methods of moving on, I'm still stuck on her each day like those 8 months of no contact. I felt little to no progress during that time. And I am a very active person.
What are your thoughts on this whole situation?
