How do you casually date?

[Bourne]

I don't want a relationship. I want to date and spin plates. At what point and how do you tell a girl you taking out to coffee, lunch, date etc that. When? As soon as possible? When the conversation comes up? How do you tell her? How often do you see them? etc

I'm lost on this subject.

 

[Abcd]

I don't want a relationship. I want to date and spin plates. At what point and how do you tell a girl you taking out to coffee, lunch, date etc that. When? As soon as possible? When the conversation comes up? How do you tell her? How often do you see them? etc

I'm lost on this subject.

A quick answer to your question is that you ask girls out for "dates" like those you mention before you get to know them. It's difficult to "ask out" someone you're already generally aquainted with, someone with whom you are in the "friend zone." That's because the first time you ask a girl out it should be a pretty casual request, and if she's already your friend, that type of request is going to seem like you're just inviting her to hang out as normal. Usually I ask a girl out the second or third time I meet her. When things are starting out, you probably want to limit it to one real "action" date a week, with perhaps a mini-date thrown in during the week.

 

[True Realness]

If you go out with a girl enough times, she'll eventually want to know your intentions for the two of you. At that point, you can simply say that you enjoy spending time together with her and having fun while at the same time seeing where everything goes from there. A comment similar to that won't lead her on because your stating a "possible" future as a couple while not "guranteeing" it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

If you go out with a girl enough times, she'll eventually want to know your intentions for the two of you. At that point, you can simply say that you enjoy spending time together with her and having fun while at the same time seeing where everything goes from there. A comment similar to that won't lead her on because your stating a "possible" future as a couple while not "guranteeing" it.

This is true to a point. The woman will wonder only if you do things that allow her to believe that its serious. Things like seeing her frequently will do this. If a guy is truly dating around, he will only see a particular woman once every couple of weeks or so; he'd be too busy to see her any more often. If they only see one another infrequently, how would she get to the point of considering dating unless he brings it up.

 

[resilient]

light kino

How about less kino? I'd think if you weren't laying the heavy kino on her or making a pass on the couch than it could be considered a "Friendship Zone" date. Obviously, if you haven't kissed by the 3rd or 4th date than she'll want to wonder what's up, who else you might be with, and why you haven't escalated the kino. I like what the above posters said as well. See her less often and spin plates in between so you don't across needy and have options. Also, occasionaly flake on date with your "busy" life... since girls do that to us all the time! Here's another question: how do you keep dating her without leading her on or either of you two become attached?

 

[DJ4Real]

I don't want a relationship. I want to date and spin plates. At what point and how do you tell a girl you taking out to coffee, lunch, date etc that. When? As soon as possible? When the conversation comes up? How do you tell her? How often do you see them? etc

I'm lost on this subject.

Well, you can't just casual date a bunch of times and not expect a woman's emotions not to eventually kick in..more than likely, she will want to know if the relationship will escalate after awhile.