How do you build stronger relationships with other guys (no homo)

[bballkilla]

i know a whole lot of people at my school, but there are always other kids that seem to know them a lot more than i do. basically they like hangout, go to the movies, play basketball, play video games at each others houses, etc.

but for me, there's no one that i hangout with outside school. i havent been to a party or gone over to someone's house after school since elementary. i think im just a very small step away from being a pretty popular person at school, i just need to know how i can start hanging out with other people after school.

for example, tonight is a friday night, and im sitting at home on my computer with no contact to the social world. other kids were at the movies, at parties, etc that i would never be invited to.

i hope someone understands my question, i would really appreciate your opinions.

 

[havybastard]

you need at least 2 good mates otherwise you are ****ed. I've seen all-round-nice-guys at school, who are friendly with everyone, and everyone likes them but they are actually not good friends with any of them.

I've even seen popular kids who are popular because they are good looking or awesome at sport, and get chicks, however actually have no close mates or friends.

so, you really need to make a few close friends, u gotta actually organise **** and invite people to it, otherwise if you try and invite yourself you will sound like a tryhard or a weird ass.

 

[BustedKnucks]

find people that laugh at the same **** you do. sad to say but the easiest way to make friends is to make fun of something/someone else

 

[cpddavis]

In a way, this is almost tougher than girls, since its so natural and even most guys who suck with girls can stilll have great guy friends.

I guess the best way is to have common hobbies like sports, games and being able to contribute a social situation.

Getting guy friiends isn't something I really pay attention to since it comes kin d of naturally. Tougher question than one would think. Its important to be a good ****, buy a round when its your turn, don't be afraid to laugh at yourself, understand that the world and girls are totally absurd (after all the bull**** and carrying on) and that's what makes it fun and people will have fun with you.

One thing I'll note is that it does frighten me a little bit as a 30 year old having to build a new social network when the time comes. Its not like when your 22. Most people my age don't want anything to do with me unless I can do something for them. 21-25 are the golden social years (though you might not come to value those relationships as much as the harder to earn ones years later).

 

[LA_Chico]

I like the title of this thread bro (no homos)

 

[cpddavis]

Who's worried about homos?

 

[Chemistry]

Isn't there a High School forum to deal with this kinda thing?

What are you gonna do about the situation? If you want to know why they are not hanging out with you or inviting you to these parties then look at the list of potential reasons... I don't know you or these people, you're the only person qualified to judge, but you need to be honest...

Still don't know? You can be one of the kids who keeps his head down in High School and starts college afresh establishing yourself in a completely new environment... use High School to improve yourself man... alone time is cool, it allows you to work out, learn about various things, and get good grades, and we all know that good grades will eventually equal big money... and where big money is involved, hot chicks will always be found, lol...