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How do you bring the weight down properly in deadlifting?

thechosenone2190

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I know how to lift the bar up without rounding my back, but as I go down, I can't keep my back straight anymore. All the weight pushing downwards forces my back to bend. How do I properly bring the weight down in a deadlift?

I've tried bending my hips back first but that forces you to bend your back.

Am I supposed to let the bar fall down more quickly? I think the problem is when I go down, I bring the weight down too slowly in trying to get proper form that it backfires and my back rounds. How quick is the movement going down supposed to be?
 
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Your SUPPOSE to ARCH your back....Unless you mean you lift without ROUNDING your back.

Lowering the bar in a conventional deadlift is similar to the way you would lower the bar for a stiff leg / romanian deadlift deadlift. GET YOUR KNEES OUTTA THE WAY !!! hips move backwards.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PnBREGM7pE0
 

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Post a video if you want solid feedback, but it sounds to me like you are not lowering the weight with your legs and doing a SLDL instead.
 

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sorry guys. i didnt mean i arch my back. i mean my back is rounded when i go down. thanks for the feedback
 

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Two ways of doing it. The first is to simply reverse the way you picked it up which is to bend your knees and shift your hips back while keeping your back arched the best you can. The second and this is if you have rubber weights, a platform, and people who actually know about power lifting is just to drop the weight and keep it from bouncing all over the place so you can lift it again.
 

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I just do a controlled drop, no need to worry about form because you're no longer tensing your muscles at levels which could cause injury.
 

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The eccentric part of a deadlift is way more stressful to your lower back than the concentric part. No need to be super-slow or controlled; just let gravity do the work and not your back.
 

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Well, Nice job and I think In both cases, I’m using an alternating grip. You don’t have to, but it’s something that makes holding the bar easier. Just grab the bar with one hand overhand and one hand underhand. This minimizes the problem of the bar rolling around. Notice that in both cases, my hips are low, my back is straight with shoulders pulled back, and I’m looking forward.
 
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