How do you become the alpha male?

[evolvingnerd]

i re-read the bible but didn't really understand it
in my gropu, i'm sort of the cool and funny one, yet i never did approach the chicks and what not, but was rather the solid friend to my other geeky friends

now there's this white guy in our gropu (american, not sure if it changtes things) that is pretty much the alpha of our gropu. even though he's somewhat boring, he's pretty friendly, and although i could see he was not confident, he approached and talked to the girls nonetheless. as a result, eh's somewhat alpha

i've started approachin and talkin to more girls and i can feel my confident skyrocketing. the only problem is, he goes to a different uni to me and some of the others from our gropu. and it kinder seem slike the gropu is drifint apart.

however, i still want to attain the alpha status in our gropu, and as petty as it sounds, i'd like this guy to know it

ideas?

 

[squirrels]

Alphas are not concerned with attaining alpha-status.

They simply do their own thing without worrying about acceptance from others. Their personality and activities portray how fun it is to other people and they naturally want to join/fall in line.

Being an Alpha-male is all about you, don't be fooled. Start doing things for yourself, fun stuff you always wanted to do. Empower your life. Talk to people you would normally be afraid to talk to about topics you'd normally be afraid to speak on, but really have something to say about. Go out and do those things that you've always said "I want to do this", but have always been afraid of because of time or money or confidence or some other issue.

 

[Dukester]

sounds like you are power hungry and a control freak. dont worry about trying to be the "alpha male" around all your guy friends.

if they girls know that your'e the "alpha," then that's all that matters. dont worry about what other people think.

 

[xblitz44x]

Being "Alpha" as it's normally used in the 'seduction community' is nothing more than mimmicking the actions that somebody that THEY would consider "alpha" would do. It seems that the community has established a 'universal' list of criteria of what is "alpha". "Be confident, be the social butterfly, tell; don't ask, stand a certain way, yada yada".

There are several problems with this though:

1) This 'criteria list' of what is "Alpha" is a generic list. Everybody's perception of what is 'alpha' is different. A girl could easily see through the tough act and see how corney it is and you'll drop the ball right there. It always depends on each girl.

2) But more importantly...an ACTION is the result of what is going on inside of somebody. What is inside always will show through. This is WHY 'truely' dominant masculine men DO certain things. These 'things' are the result of the what's going on internally. So, by the DJs just DOING "alpha things", you're only unnaturally mimmicking the result; which will come across as phoney and unnatural because it's not really YOU.

And the community is under the false impression that if we 'act' and pretend and keep doing certain alpha things enough, that we're all-of-a-sudden going to BECOME alpha inside, because the actions become 'natural'. But they NEVER really become natural. They *may* become automatic but it still won't be natural. At the very BEST you'll be automatically doing unnatural things and it'll show.

It's the same as cutting a weed above the surface of the ground. It'll always grow back. Why not dig out the root? *Really* think about and consider WHY you didn't feel so 'alpha' before. What is it that makes you so shy? Really examine the facts so you can see how silly your fears are. Then face down with them. It'll take some time but you'll make TRUE progress instead of blowing smoke up your own ass walking around with an "alpha" attitude. You're fooling nobody but yourself.

-Blitz

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Yes, it all starts by changing yourself; after that, you will be perceived as the alpha. Approaching women and initiating conversations and everthing is the best way to attain that status in terms of how others, women, and more importantly, you perceive yourself.

Your friend when out and approached and initiated, therefore he automatically commanded the respect, at least within your "grupo" of friends. You got the answer. You mentioned how your confidence skyrocketted after you started to also approach.

 

[evolvingnerd]

i am getting somewhat power hungry
not sure if it's all bad though
i'm becoming waay better with women, no where near where i want to be, but hehehe, you shouldds seen me 2 months ago
anyway, i'm still mainly restricted to lectures and before and after lectures ith the ladies. mainly cause i don't seek them out, but when i'm in the lecture, there are a few who come running

anyway, i want people to see this
i'm used to be known as the smart nerd guy - i never hid it because that's who i was, and after my drastic imrpovement, i want people to look up and hey, where the hell did he come from?

 

[Bonhomme]

Where ARE you the alpha male?

Maslow himself noted that often the "beta" monkeys he observed were often getting laid while the alphas are fighting among themselves... a bit of food for thought.

The key to playing the "alpha male" card is to arrange things to meet women in venues and situations where you ARE the alpha male, in some way or another.

Everybody has strengths and weaknesses. Someone can be a complete nerd by most standards, but if they are good at intellectual dicussions, they might be the "alpha male" when such a discussion is going on. If you're good at small talk, bars and other social events that revolve around conversation are good. if you're good at bowling, try bowling alleys.... you get the idea.

It's like the principle of relativity ... you're more likely to succeed with women where you can make a good impression in one way or another -- and not necessarily the most obvious way (e.g., a bad dancer who has a killer sense of humor and sense of fun can still make a good impression on the dance floor).