"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How do you become more ballsy?

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Ok this might sound funny but how do you grow your own balls? How many times have you been in situations where you instantly say to yourself, "Man if I had the balls to do that, I would!!" Balls this Balls that where have our own balls gone to??

We encounter fear all the time and no doubt hesitate to the point where you back off. Sometimes you get so nervous you about to die of a heart attack and sh*t yourself. I know there is no magic pill to this but somewhere on this forum or somewhat locked inside some hardcore bast*rd's head to be picked, courage can be harvested to become....yes....BALLSY.

Anyways guys is there any taker's on this topic or has it been covered somewhere on this forum?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You just have to do it. If you sit there and say "I'm gonna approach her" but don't, then you're obviously not as 'ballsy' as you thought you were. Nobody here can say "take 5 deep breaths, snap your left fingers together twice, nod 4 times and go talk to her - guaranteed balls". If you want something bad enough, you'll do it...

The only reason you don't approach someone you're attracted to (other than if she has a bodybuilding boyfriend on her side) is because you're afraid. Plain and simple. Either overcome it or don't - the only person who stands to lose or benefit is you.
 
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He's right.

You just have to do it. Don't think about it or you won't do it. The more you try to get ready to do it, the less chance you will have of actually following through with it.

What do you have to lose? Get shut down, get laid, or regret never trying. One of these WILL happen.

Weigh it.
 
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simple!

you get kicked in the balls by chicks or people in general enough

and you will start being more ballsy .

you will stand up for yourself and stop being a doormat.

you will also feel a little braver and more self confident after you do it so many times.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Imagine you have to carry them everywhere you go in a wheelbarrow.
 
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Tonight I finally kiss (well is kinda turned out to be a disaster) a girl who I've liked on the side for over 2 years. I wanted to fully kiss her but turned into a silly peck.

But it was a fear I had to conquer. Whether I lose or not (a loss by the way) it gives me a smidgen of courage nonetheless.

Anyways, I shall do more things I used to be scared of doing.
 
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It's been a long time since I posted on this...

Last week I sorta conquered my lil fear of height by going rock climbing on an artificial platform (about 10-15 tall)...not only I climbed it but I climbed it around 10 more times and as fast as I can and jumping off after ringing the bell.

But I injured my back and now seeing a chiropractor and physio lol. But it was all good and it gave me the buzz I've been longing for. (By the way isnt that true that if everytime you win something, your testosterone level goes up?)
 
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Ballsy is really nothing more than being willing to act out on your feelings.

You feel attracted to a woman, the ballsy person approaches.
A woman pulls shady behavior, the ballsy person sees this and puts her in her place or drops her like trash... whichever he feels necessary.
A man calls you out... the ballsy person accepts the challenge in the best way he sees fit.

In other words, it's feeling what you likely would call fear, and uses that fear to push him towards what he wants by confronting it.

Keep in mind, every time you cringe from fear, the fear doesn't go away, but gets stronger.

I've been roofing lately, and I recently ended up on a job where the pitch of the roof was more steep than I'd ever worked before. Granted, it's a little easier to conquer a fear when you've got the rope holding you back... but quitting is not an option, and everything has to get done. Does being a roofer make me ballsy, no, but the fact that I push through the fear of falling off and get the job done as quickly as it can get done.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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It's not confidence
It's not state of mind
It's not even having a "not caring attitude"


You see all the personality traits we see in "ballsy" people aren't the CAUSE of their ballsiness. Those traits are actually the PRODUCT.

What is the cause? ACTION.
TAKE ACTION and then these personality traits will start to appear.

ACTION precludes the PERSONALITY in this case.

You don't need to grow nuts...you just need to be scared as **** while you start doing things that make you "ballsy". Eventually you won't be scared as **** anymore, it'll just be who you are.

Take action.
 
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Learn how to CONTROL YOUR STATE. Cold approaches become a breeze.
 
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