"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How do you become high status/respected

Jimmtl

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I used to be a realy shy guy and i would never get out of my shell until i discovered some of the communities products.
Since then ive become much more social and borderline "dancing monkey guy"
and well this is almost a miricle for a guy like me , but now that im pretty good socialy i wanna work on my character and the way people percieve me.
I can get along with anyone pretty fast but what i noticed is that im not realy seen as a "high status guy". I tend to get realy reactive when im around high status people(the whole fake smiling/laughing too much etc)
So how can i work on this(becoming more chilled out and relaxed) without reverting back to my old days of being shy and aloof?
btw the whole "stop worrying about being respeced and you'l get it obviously hasnt worked for me now that i look back at the last 6months or so.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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ATP

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Go to the gym, high status people respect muscle.
 

TKool

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ATP said:
Go to the gym, high status people respect muscle.
The stupidest reply ever.
 

sodbuster

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Actually BE something. Be the ladys man,be a high income guy,etc. This isn't something you can read about. A high value man has to BE,DO then have. SO you need to BE an actor,DO the acting,then you HAVE the status.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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sodbuster

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Actually BE something. Be the ladys man,be a high income guy,etc. This isn't something you can read about. A high value man has to BE,DO then have. SO you need to BE an actor,DO the acting,then you HAVE the status.
 

I'm in the Mood

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Jimmtl said:
I used to be a realy shy guy and i would never get out of my shell until i discovered some of the communities products.
Since then ive become much more social and borderline "dancing monkey guy"
and well this is almost a miricle for a guy like me , but now that im pretty good socialy i wanna work on my character and the way people percieve me.
I can get along with anyone pretty fast but what i noticed is that im not realy seen as a "high status guy". I tend to get realy reactive when im around high status people(the whole fake smiling/laughing too much etc)
So how can i work on this(becoming more chilled out and relaxed) without reverting back to my old days of being shy and aloof?
btw the whole "stop worrying about being respeced and you'l get it obviously hasnt worked for me now that i look back at the last 6months or so.
To be high status, stop seeking approval from other people and become comfortable with who you are.

If you don't like who you are, you must FIRST ACCEPT YOURSELF, only then can you SUCCESSFULLY CHANGE.

If you're coming from a mindset that lowers your value you will act congruently with your mindset.
 

Julius_Seizeher

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This is important for all your ambitions, not just the ladies.

The first and best way to do this, is to have a high-status career. sodbuster knows about this, he's a dentist. I have started a practice in my area, I will soon have my face on billboards, and people respect my ambition. I have also attained more status by rising in the Masons. Now, I am also working to found a chapter of the Young Professionals in my home county and the next. This will provide me with more networking, more business, more status, more opportunities to meet women, etc.

Do you see? Get out there and be a leader in the community, such men are rare as most are content to live under a rock. I hold a mental image of myself on a horse, yelling "forward!" to a disorganized rabble.

The money isn't bad either:cool:
 
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