how do you be on the initial phone call to setiup date?

[thelonewolflegend]

How do u make her laugh and get her interested enough in first 10 min so she will go on date without flaking?

 

[teebear]

I think that she has to find you physically attractive in the first place. Game is useful for attracting and keeping women who already think you're good looking but if a woman doesn't find you physically attractive, you're screwed.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

Ok well i need game what do i say

 

[devilkingx2]

it's a numbers game.

you improve yourself to improve the percent of women who'd like you, and then you go after many women to try to get the percent of atleast 1 of them liking you to 100%(or close)

 

[salinechow]

I spoke to him today. I took 45 min of my time and actually talked with Wolf on the phone. I thought it to be prudent to give back to a community that has given me so much. Yet, Wolf cant get out of his own way. He is stuck on stupid. We covered that he needs to increase his social pool. Like Devilking said, its a numbers game. More potential, more potential! Yet, here he is again, Wolf is circumventing well thought out advice. Time spent, and seemingly wasted. He has the tools and the key, it is within! Until he realizes this and stops worrying about the minutia he is doomed.

Wolf, like we covered today, you must increase your social pool size, (without exposing your details, you know what you need to do to do this) get out there in all the ways we talked about. You must MAKE it happen at all costs. Add jobs, gym, volunteer work and clubs. You must be around as many people and different personalities as possible. You must fail 50 times! This is OK! I do it and I am talking with 8 chicks right now! Yet, I still try to fail! Education and becoming a natural is locked within failure and learning from it. You CANNOT do that with a small circle. You MUST expand out. As you do this, you will at the same time increase your own inner frame. Making money, gains in the gym(as well as the chemicals that come along with it) helping others, and meeting new people with common interests.

DO IT. It must be done. There is no other way! Do what we laid out! No one here is willing to help you the way I did. I demonstrated care for you! Don’t IGNORE IT. Otherwise I recommended no one helps you further my friend, because without doing what we discussed, no one can help you with texts, phone calls or dates. You must have inner frame for any of this to work! It is the only way.

 

[thelonewolflegend]

I know man its gonna b a while but i will

 

[Meisterman]

I know man its gonna b a while but i will

Wow. I think that's the first time I've ever seen you with a somewhat positive attitude. THATS what you need. You don't have to figure out every tiny detail of every encounter and plan everything out exactly. You just have to be confident.

Then you might say "ok well how do I be confident" DONT ASK THAT. Just start pretending you are. Say and think things like "I know Im improving" and "I'm learning something each day" etc.

Seems like you have an over active monkey mind that wants to make things EXACTLY the way you want. A mind that keeps thinking if only you did everything perfectly you would get the girl.

Consider that your problem isn't what you're DOING. The problem is how you're THINKING. Your mind is finding anything it can to criticize your game, dwell on your failures, and view success as an irreachable goal that will only happen in the future. Well guess what, there will never be a "future" time where you will find happiness either with yourself or another girl.

So you have to stop looking elsewhere and realize the problem and solution is found within YOURSELF and it's here NOW. Your mind keeps trying to find the problem, when your mind IS the problem. It's like a detective trying to catch a bank robber, when the detective IS the bank robber.

As soon as you stop the negative feedback looped thinking of "I am not good with woman" "I do not know what to say" "Woman don't like me" "I can't score dates" etc...those thoughts cease to exist, and when they cease to exist, THEY ARENT REAL. THEY DONT DEFINE YOU.

These thoughts are only defining your reality and situation because you are reinforcing them as true by believing they're real. The truth is they're useless. Garbage. There is NO value in negative thinking. If you think negative, the world will reflect back to you negative experiences to validate that belief. If you think positive, the world will reflect back to you positive experiences to validate that belief.

How is this possible? Because nothing is plainly "Good" or "Bad". Things just are as they are. YOU give them their meaning. Stop trying to control everything and trust that if a girl leaves you, you're better off without her. Or if she flakes, then it's good you found out early because she isn't worth your time. Or if you fvcked up, then it's good you learned from it because you now know more than you did before. You can ALWAYS put a positive spin on it no matter what it is. That's how a DJ thinks.

So start THINKING like a DJ and stop ASKING how. I'll tell you how. BE YOURSELF. BE HAPPY. BE FULFILLED AND LOVE YOURSELF WITHOUT NEEDING A GIRL TO FILL AN EMPTY HOLE INSIDE.

And no one but yourself can do this for you. If you ask something like "Ok how do I be myself" or "How do I be happy" well I'm sorry to say but there's not another person on the planet who can answer that question for you except you. Only YOU can fix this. Only YOU can change yourself. And if you constantly need to ask other people how YOU can change YOURSELF. Then you never will. Because they can't do it, only you can. It's that simple.

 

[sylvester the cat]

there are 2 lonewolflegends on instagram. which one are you?

 

[salinechow]

Wow. I think that's the first time I've ever seen you with a somewhat positive attitude. THATS what you need. You don't have to figure out every tiny detail of every encounter and plan everything out exactly. You just have to be confident. Maybe we did start to reach you a little Wolf.

Then you might say "ok well how do I be confident" DONT ASK THAT. Just start pretending you are. Say and think things like "I know Im improving" and "I'm learning something each day" etc. Wolf, you may even want to write these things on post it notes and hang them everywhere and read and repeat them to yourself.

Seems like you have an over active monkey mind that wants to make things EXACTLY the way you want. A mind that keeps thinking if only you did everything perfectly you would get the girl.He definitely does. This monkey can be tamed though by filling idle time. He said he realized this and WILL conquer it. Right Wolf?

Consider that your problem isn't what you're DOING. The problem is how you're THINKING. Your mind is finding anything it can to criticize your game, dwell on your failures, and view success as an irreachable goal that will only happen in the future. Well guess what, there will never be a "future" time where you will find happiness either with yourself or another girl.

So you have to stop looking elsewhere and realize the problem and solution is found within YOURSELF and it's here NOW. Your mind keeps trying to find the problem, when your mind IS the problem. It's like a detective trying to catch a bank robber, when the detective IS the bank robber. Action! Today! Go! Make one small progress. Anything. But do it today!

As soon as you stop the negative feedback looped thinking of "I am not good with woman" "I do not know what to say" "Woman don't like me" "I can't score dates" etc...those thoughts cease to exist, and when they cease to exist, THEY ARENT REAL. THEY DONT DEFINE YOU. Priceless wisdom. Fill your time with positive things and the feedback loop will start to change.

These thoughts are only defining your reality and situation because you are reinforcing them as true by believing they're real. The truth is they're useless. Garbage. There is NO value in negative thinking. If you think negative, the world will reflect back to you negative experiences to validate that belief. If you think positive, the world will reflect back to you positive experiences to validate that belief.Read and re-read this until you memorize it like your favorite song. You should be able to repeat this on command. I dont need it as bad as you do, and thats just what I am going to do. I am going to write this 10x over so that I memorize it. It is that valuable to hear, know, and understand. No matter where anyone is on there walk in life this is good to hear. Even Meisterman, needs to hear it over and over again, even though they are his words. It is that good.

How is this possible? Because nothing is plainly "Good" or "Bad". Things just are as they are. YOU give them their meaning. Stop trying to control everything and trust that if a girl leaves you, you're better off without her. Or if she flakes, then it's good you found out early because she isn't worth your time. Or if you fvcked up, then it's good you learned from it because you now know more than you did before. You can ALWAYS put a positive spin on it no matter what it is. That's how a DJ thinks.Truth and wisdom. Just so well put.

So start THINKING like a DJ and stop ASKING how. I'll tell you how. BE YOURSELF. BE HAPPY. BE FULFILLED AND LOVE YOURSELF WITHOUT NEEDING A GIRL TO FILL AN EMPTY HOLE INSIDE.

And no one but yourself can do this for you. If you ask something like "Ok how do I be myself" or "How do I be happy" well I'm sorry to say but there's not another person on the planet who can answer that question for you except you. Only YOU can fix this. Only YOU can change yourself. And if you constantly need to ask other people how YOU can change YOURSELF. Then you never will. Because they can't do it, only you can. It's that simple.Action, patience, and discipline are the keys to city.

Meisterman- You wrote this for Wolf, but I am so glad to read it myself. I hope others see this also. Its just good to hear even when you already understand it. Always improving. Always adjusting and accepting wisdom when you see it are virtues.