"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how do you avoid the eventual pitfall?

BobFuest

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how do you avoid the eventual pitfall of "love"? you go with a girl for a long time, she meets all the checks on your check list, you open yourself a little, she begs for more, eventually you get comfortable, then she puts you to the tests and starts screwin with you. what do you do?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Bourne

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Depends on the test.
But girls will always, always, always sh1t test you. Its one of the ways they see if you can stand your ground and be a man.
 

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PleasureKing said:
First tell me what you mean by "screwin with you". And if this is your situation, did she JUST start this habit, or its been going on for a while?
nah it was more of a general question. I meant sh1t testing. was drunk at home last night :eek:
 

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Once they start their juvenile shyte tests, I press DELETE now !
There is nothing wrong withn a woman finding out about who and what you are by observation over time, BUT these sh!t tests belong in teenage girlyville. Do NOT TOLERATE THEM. They are stupid and destructive and cause a lot of unnecessary drama.
However some women are not so much testing you as playing "drama queen" games because they want some of that early churning turmoil to return to the relationship . Another possibility is that you have a girl who is addicted to uproar and choas. Examine her upbringing and then you will see how she operates. She will try to re-create her early experiences even if they were abusive or painful. Women are like that.
 
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