"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do you attract the Quality Women?

FieldReportGuy7

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My "game" has gotten better in a sense.

But I've noticed a trend, I keep attracting these Hot trailer trash women or slutty women with "boyfriends" they keep in the closet.

WTF?? It seems like I can't have my cake and eat it too. I sort of have to learn to "give" and be a better person to attract the quality woman that I know will be great for me in the long run.

A Quality woman in my defintion is someone who will never cheat on you. Who will be supportive of your endevours, she is not freakin slut, will place family, kids over her career, is not selfish, is drama free and just a great person overrall who has compassion and treat people right. And also is easy on the eyes as well.

But the thing is, I don't want to develop one itis, So theres like a conflict right there between just going out and having fun/ playing the field or settling for a meaningful relationship that will ultimately be good for me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Fuglydude

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FieldReportGuy7 said:
My "game" has gotten better in a sense.

But I've noticed a trend, I keep attracting these Hot trailer trash women or slutty women with "boyfriends" they keep in the closet.

WTF?? It seems like I can't have my cake and eat it too. I sort of have to learn to "give" and be a better person to attract the quality woman that I know will be great for me in the long run.

A Quality woman in my defintion is someone who will never cheat on you. Who will be supportive of your endevours, she is not freakin slut, will place family, kids over her career, is not selfish, is drama free and just a great person overrall who has compassion and treat people right. And also is easy on the eyes as well.

But the thing is, I don't want to develop one itis, So theres like a conflict right there between just going out and having fun/ playing the field or settling for a meaningful relationship that will ultimately be good for me.
Ya man a high quality women will be great for you in the long run.

In my experience you gotta be a high quality guy to attract girls like this. This means that not only do you have to have game, but you gotta have the other areas of your life in order. This includes being in elite shape, having a good career/income, being sexual/good in bed, engaging personality... overall being a high value guy.

To me game is almost like advertising. If you have a solid product you won't have to advertise as much as the product will sell itself. Therefore, you gotta focus on developing the product, which in this case, is yourself.

Remember high quality women have tons of options and if you're serious about settling down with one you gotta be a quality guy yourself.
 

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Be a good dude. Don't neg, don't play games, don't wait a week to call, don't spin plates, don't tell her to know her place, etc.

Do have confidence.
 

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FairShake said:
Be a good dude. Don't neg, don't play games, don't wait a week to call, don't spin plates, don't tell her to know her place, etc.

Do have confidence.
How is this supposed to attract a quality woman? You're basically telling him to be a nice guy. You are not looking at the root of the problem.

To attract a certain type of woman you have to go to where that certain type of woman hangs out!

If you hang out at bars, clubs, strip clubs, have non educated/trashy friends etc = you'll likely be seen by low quality women which are the women that frequent those places or hang out with those people.

If you go volunteer, library, church, medical school = places where you are more likely to find higher quality women.

Now when it comes to friends that's something that isn't easily fixed. The friends you have is often a big factor in the type of women you end up meeting. If you hang out at parties with drunkards then you'll likely meet drunkard women.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Black Dog

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f283000 said:
How is this supposed to attract a quality woman? You're basically telling him to be a nice guy. You are not looking at the root of the problem.

To attract a certain type of woman you have to go to where that certain type of woman hangs out!

If you hang out at bars, clubs, strip clubs, have non educated/trashy friends etc = you'll likely be seen by low quality women which are the women that frequent those places or hang out with those people.
If you go volunteer, library, church, medical school = places where you are more likely to find higher quality women.

Now when it comes to friends that's something that isn't easily fixed. The friends you have is often a big factor in the type of women you end up meeting.

Wow, thanks a lot f283000! This was a big problem for me a while ago, awesome post it's reinforced how hard I need to work on all aspects of my life, not just women.

I don't see how guys expect to get the amazing sexy-women, with badass curves and all that when they don't themselves work on their body..
 

FairShake

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f283000 said:
You're basically telling him to be a nice guy. You are not looking at the root of the problem.

To attract a certain type of woman you have to go to where that certain type of woman hangs out!
The root IS being a nice guy. Nice guys (with "high value") probably already hang out in the places to find nice girls.

And nice girls do go to bars and clubs. As do most 20 somethings. They just don't dedicate their lives to it.
 

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Fuglydude said:
To me game is almost like advertising. If you have a solid product you won't have to advertise as much as the product will sell itself. Therefore, you gotta focus on developing the product, which in this case, is yourself.

Holy sh!t. Best analogy ever.

I always thought of it this way too, but you put the thought into words.

Some girls though have ALOT of trouble seeing your advertising unless you really sell it to them; so you can't just be in elite shape, have a killer job, sweet hobbies, lots of toys, and be a sociable guy. Along with that you have to be your own salesman to get the job done.
 

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FairShake said:
Be a good dude. Don't neg, don't play games, don't wait a week to call, don't spin plates, don't tell her to know her place, etc.

Do have confidence.
Worst advice ever.
 
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