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You can get most people to do anything you want if you know how to turn them on. :
Hmmm.....
Hmmm.....
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
It's a wise policy, but at the same time, your "cleanliness" is as much suspect as theirs. How can you refuse to go down on her and expect her to go down on you?Originally posted by white_hype
another question, normally i dont like to go down on girls i dont know that well (especially ONS) unless they are extremely hot or no for a fact they are "clean"........ what are your thoughts on this?
Yes. Snowballing is disgusting. But that's not snowballing... snowballing is when the chick keeps the *** in her mouth and transfers it to your mouth. (No I have NEVER done this). Kissing a girl after she went down on you might be disgusting too, but not nearly as disgusting as snowballing... I mean you'd hope she'd have swallowed by then, so there shouldn't be anything in her mouth. (If she didn't, then you've got totally other issues to deal with, ha). I never expect a kiss right afterwards, I usually go and clean up (mouthwash, whatever)... but a lot of guys don't care about that. Depends on the person, if they grab me and kiss me afterwards, cool. If they don't, that's cool too. Whatever. I WOULD kiss a guy after he went down on me, but I'd rather not... in fact (as discussed in that other post) I'd rather he skip the going down on me all together, but that's just me.Ewww. Snowballing is disgusting.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.