How do women really think?

[K-man]

I had an interesting experience this weekend.

I've recently left my LTR and are just about starting to try to connect with women again.

This saturday I was at a small informal part and one of my female friends (I've known her for many years) arranged so that a "nice single lady, a close friend of mine wil be there so you two can meet".

Great! It sounded as a good idea to let my social circle help me.

Or maybe not.

One lady in question was really good looking. No mistake about that.

But.

All my male buddies would have just looke at her and thought "Definitely not a woman suitable for K-mans" in a matter of minutes.

She's 17 years younger then me. About as much White Trash as a girl can possibly be, not very intelligent and simply not a charming person.

How the hell could Anna even consider us two as a couple???? I simply don't see her reasoning about this.

I wouldn't mind banging her but since she's only 23 and this will be known by ALL my firends -male and female- within a couple of weeks I'm afraid I'll spoil other chances of using my social network to find a more mature and perhaps educated woman.

What would you guys do? I'm desperately trying to get rid of my oneitis for a lady at work....

Thanks,

K-man

 

[zekko]

All my male buddies would have just looke at her and thought "Definitely not a woman suitable for K-mans" in a matter of minutes.

I've wondered about something similar myself for quite awhile. My girlfriend will sometimes accuse me of being into some girl or other, and she almost never hits the target on which ones I find attractive. Sometimes she does, but usually she is way off base. I just think "wtf?" and go on. I'm not sure women really understand what a guy would like in a particular woman.

 

[Commandante]

I wouldn't mind banging her but since she's only 23 and this will be known by ALL my firends -male and female- within a couple of weeks

Being 40 and banging a 23 old chick is OK. If I were you I wouldn´t give a flying fvck about what "my friends" think about it. If they were REALLY my friends they would say "yeah man, high5!, good for you". And by the way, all of the old b!tches would like to be 23 again and being banged by a 40 year old man, and all your friends would like to do the same like you, even if they don´t admit it.

What would you guys do? I'm desperately trying to get rid of my oneitis for a lady at work....

Go for it!

 

[Kailex]

They don't think. They just act out.

 

[K-man]

Being 40 and banging a 23 old chick is OK. If I were you I wouldn´t give a flying fvck about what "my friends" think about it. If they were REALLY my friends they would say "yeah man, high5!, good for you". And by the way, all of the old b!tches would like to be 23 again and being banged by a 40 year old man, and all your friends would like to do the same like you, even if they don´t admit it.



Go for it!

Thanks's Commandante, but I'm not worried about the guys.
I'm worried about their SO:s who know dozens of fresh 30-somwthings that they could hook me up with!

I totally agree Zekko! And then we're made to believe that women are more perceptible and hav natural skills when it comes to social relations then us men, but even though Anna has known me for many years she picks someone TOTALLY unattatractive to me!

 

[5string]

You said you didn't want it to be known that you banged some white trash. You also said it would get around if you did. So don't. Stick to your standards.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

but I'm not worried about the guys.
I'm worried about their SO:s who know dozens of fresh 30-somwthings that they could hook me up with!

Perhaps this group of fresh 30 somethings are collectively testing you. You could leverage this situation to your benefit, with a bit of social engineering, but it may take some discipline.

Go out with her (the trailer girl) a couple times, but NOTHING PHYSICAL. Then complain to your friend (that set you up) that you like the way she looks, but your personalities don't match.

Word will get around that you refused sex with a girl 17 years your junior, based on YOUR NON-SEXUALLY BASED CRITERIA, which will elevate your social value considerably, making you much more attractive to all those 30 somethings.

If hanging out with a young trailer trash hottie is too much for you, just visit your local rub-n-tug on the way to your 'date' to relieve the pressure.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear KMan,
Tokyo shows remarkable acumen,he is a great lateral thinker....I think it is worth a try,the girls are getting blow by blow reports from trailer trash...His devious solution to this problem could well work,at little risk or expense to you or your reputation...certainly worth trying,at least a sprat that might catch a Mackeral.

 

[jophil28]

She's 17 years younger then me. About as much White Trash as a girl can possibly be, not very intelligent and simply not a charming person.

How the hell could Anna even consider us two as a couple???? I simply don't see her reasoning about this.

K-man

K-man. Anna's "reasoning" is to be found in standard girl thinking.
"White trash" is a young , hot single woman circulating in a social set mainly comprised of 'thirty something' women in committed RELATIONSHIPS.

To Anna and her contempories, WT is perhaps perceived as a loose, single, hottie who may tease and entice any man in that group, and therefore is a threat to every LTR and marriage in that group .
In spite of what Anna claims about her "good friendship " with WT, I bet that Anna would prefer that WT just disappear.
I think that her attempt to hook you up with WT was simply a tactic to remove WT from the marauder role and re-assign her to coupledom with you thereby mitigating any perceived threat to her's and the other women's relationships .

 

[speed dawg]

How do women really think?

They don't. They feel, then they DO. The definition of a quality woman is one who realizes this, and then does not put herself in a position to FEEL.

 

[K-man]

Jophil, Scaramouche and Tokyo....

Thank you for interesting thoughts... I guess women can really be so cold and calculating that they can throw a woman they percieve as a threat to a man just to get her "out of the way". That's cold!

Had a phone converstation with Anna and she claims Mrs. White Trash is dying to see me again. Right now I feel kinda bored so...

...maybe I should follow Tokyos advice and ask her out, give her a fun and relaxed evening but NOT make a move for something physical?

Wouldn't it be typical if -just because I don't want to bang her - she'll be all over me by the end of the date. Wanna bet?

 

[squirrels]

They don't think. They just act out.

This.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Wouldn't it be typical if -just because I don't want to bang her - she'll be all over me by the end of the date. Wanna bet?

Try this if you want to have some fun and drive her insane.

As you end your date, stand up and face her. Put one hand on the back part of her shoulder (or somewhere around there), and pull her close, very slowly.

Then say:

"Mrs. White Trash, I..."

then pull her slightly closer, look into her eyes, her lips, her breasts, her lips, and her eyes again, then smile and finish your sentence

"....had fun tonight. We should do it again sometime."

Then leave it at that.

Or something else similar, leading up to but not including any kind of sexually suggestive contact.

 

[K-man]

Try this if you want to have some fun and drive her insane.

As you end your date, stand up and face her. Put one hand on the back part of her shoulder (or somewhere around there), and pull her close, very slowly.

Then say:

"Mrs. White Trash, I..."

then pull her slightly closer, look into her eyes, her lips, her breasts, her lips, and her eyes again, then smile and finish your sentence

"....had fun tonight. We should do it again sometime."

Then leave it at that.

Or something else similar, leading up to but not including any kind of sexually suggestive contact.

LOL!

That should do it!
I know that if a lady I was into did that to me by the end of a date I'd nearly soil my undies!

 

[jophil28]

Had a phone converstation with Anna and she claims Mrs. White Trash is dying to see me again. Right now I feel kinda bored so...

Yes, if this is true you should have no problems in creating a solid frame on the first meet.
If Anna is exaggerating in her zealous attempt to fix you up with WT, then you may find a different outcome if you ask WT out.
I guess there is one simple way to find out.

BTW, why do you refer to her as " MRS." rather than Miss ?

 

[K-man]

Yes, if this is true you should have no problems in creating a solid frame on the first meet.
If Anna is exaggerating in her zealous attempt to fix you up with WT, then you may find a different outcome if you ask WT out.
I guess there is one simple way to find out.

BTW, why do you refer to her as " MRS." rather than Miss ?

Sorry Jophil, just misspelling on my part! I won't go for another married woman. I promise!

 

[jophil28]

Sorry Jophil, just misspelling on my part! I won't go for another married woman. I promise!

OK, I guess that you can borrow the station wagon Saturday night . Be home by 1 am.

 

[K-man]

OK, I guess that you can borrow the station wagon Saturday night . Be home by 1 am.

Thank's dad!

Much appreciated!

 

[yuppaz]

None of my business, but you may want to give her a chance. She may change herself based on what she senses that you want (happens to me sometimes), then you have the sexy 23 year old girl that acts how you want her to. She could also have been having a bad night when you met her.

 

[K-man]

None of my business, but you may want to give her a chance. She may change herself based on what she senses that you want (happens to me sometimes), then you have the sexy 23 year old girl that acts how you want her to. She could also have been having a bad night when you met her.

Thank's mate!

We'll see how it turns out....