"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how do u get to meet girls through freinds of freinds

joe45

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hey i hear a lot of couples and bf/gf couples and a lot of em meet through a friend of a freind-like through at a party , went clubbing and they met through freinds.more like freinds hanging out togther . i have a few freinds very few, but for some reason i never ever get to meet their freinds. it just stays as me and one freind just hanging out and thats all. me and him and not me and him and his crew and some girls. how do u by askin . also askin a freind to set u up with a single female also doesn;t work from what i found out. they say they will, as ppl don't want to shut u down ..... but it never ever happens.
how does one get invited to parties, outings and hang outs were one gets to meet ppl through freidns of freinds. do u just ask em hey please invited me over to ur party, or just ask or do u wait. i never been invited whcih is so sad. why

the things with me is most ppl i meet just end up as aquitances and nothing ever ever more. we never ever hand out outside of school, ....... or work..
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Docs

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Man...
You: We should call up some people to hang out with...
Buddy: Sure! We'll call Jim, Tim and Mobo.
You: Right on!

Simple as sh!t.
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And for meeting girls though your friends, if one friend wont do it, find another friend. Some people can't connect people up, so they just brush it off and forget. There are buddies out there that will bring chicks around (and you should know whether you're allowed to touch or not), and well..whatever right?

Solution. Find more friends.
 

Bigsnake

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I use to think the same thing as you. How do I get invited to parties and to go out? Do people just forget about me?

If you want a social life, then you need to build one yourself. Don't plan on other people you meet throughout your day or people you know from activities/work/school/etc to call you. They probably are assuming you have your own friends and your own life.

Start by calling your friends and going out with them. Get numbers of other people you know and you can start calling them too, "Hey, I'm heading out to the sports bar with a friend to get a drink. Want to come along?"

You can setup your own parties and tell people to invite some friends. You can do the same with going out and calling people. There's nothing wrong with calling a friend and saying, "I'm don't have any plans tonight and was calling to see if you were up for doing something?" If he has plans, then you'll probably get invited along.

Do all this with the intention to build up people you know and NOT just to meet their friends so you can hit on them. If you keep it up, then you will start to meet their friends.
 

comic_relief

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the problem with your predictament is that you don't make things happen, you let them happen to you.

I just go out at college and meet a new person. Then just go hang out with them. Sometimes the best time is these random encounters. I just went to jump in leaves with this girl and her boyfriend and I ended up going to a grad school party. Then went trick-or-treating for a volunteer organization. We then went back and hanged out and watched the movie "Hook."

Just go out and hang out. Then go and make things happen. I am in reminder of a famous quote that I remember.

"The difference between a boy and a man is that a boy will just let things happen to them. A man will make things happen." or something like that.

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