"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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how do u cheer up depressed girls?

Raikojo17

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this girl im talking sounded really bummed out yesterday. she's having very sensitive home issues goin on right now isnt doing real well. i called her and we had a very fun convo because i told her she needed to just forget about it for a while. i procceded to flirt wit her and make her laugh and she reacted real positively about it, but then she declined my date offer because she's not feeling all that well.
my question is tho, did i do the right thing by askin her out when she's down? would she have gone out anyway if she was headover heels for me even tho she feels like crap?
how would u guys cheer up depressed girls? or should i not make it my concern and leave her alone for a while?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Are you her therapist? If not, then quit trying to cheer girls up. Doing that will put you in the friend zone. You are her emotional tampon if you do that.
 

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Raikojo17 said:
lol! good one:up:
but seriously tho, how would u guys do this?
That's how I would do it, usually gets a pretty good laugh from them, and suprisingly they end up keeping it in their room and use it too. You'll eventually get some since they will always think of you when they use it. :up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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ryannath said:
Are you her therapist? If not, then quit trying to cheer girls up. Doing that will put you in the friend zone. You are her emotional tampon if you do that.
so do i just disregard the situation and go on gaming her?
 

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They are her issues Im afraid mate. I know how counterintuitive this seems, but if you want her to be more than a friend you cannot ask if she needs your help. Everyone has their issues, if they need help it is better for everyone that they ask for it rather than having it thrust upon them.
 

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You cant do anything, she has to resolve them on her own. I've found girls like that to be a waste of time. Plus, its just depressing to be around them.
 

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leave the sappy crap to her emotional tampon friends. all girls usually have one on hand. just tell her to harden the f@ck up.
 

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Raikojo17 said:
this girl im talking sounded really bummed out yesterday. she's having very sensitive home issues goin on right now isnt doing real well. i called her and we had a very fun convo because i told her she needed to just forget about it for a while. i procceded to flirt wit her and make her laugh and she reacted real positively about it, but then she declined my date offer because she's not feeling all that well.
my question is tho, did i do the right thing by askin her out when she's down? would she have gone out anyway if she was headover heels for me even tho she feels like crap?
how would u guys cheer up depressed girls? or should i not make it my concern and leave her alone for a while?
Apparently, cocaine: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=117822
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Her private drama issues should not concern you. Do not be captain-save-a-ho to this girl. What should concern you is keeping her interest level and happiness up and you ain't going to do that talking about her problems. Next time she starts to talk about her life problems, change the subject into something fun and then invite her to have fun with you.

If she doesn't want to have fun or talk about fun leave her be in the meantime and go mack on another girl, until this issue resolves itself (and it will with or without your help). other wise you are going to end up like that kid that finds a bird with a broken wing in his yard, you are going to nurse her back to health and when she is all good and ready, she is going to peck your eyes out("thank you for being my friend") and fly away (run to the arms of another guy).
 

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...."other wise you are going to end up like that kid that finds a bird with a broken wing in his yard, you are going to nurse her back to health and when she is all good and ready, she is going to peck your eyes out("thank you for being my friend") and fly away (run to the arms of another guy).

DJDamage...you r the man dude..i really appreciate with you..you know what... i will print out ur post and keep in my room...u know whats up..
 

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Raikojo17 said:
this girl im talking sounded really bummed out yesterday. she's having very sensitive home issues goin on right now isnt doing real well. i called her and we had a very fun convo because i told her she needed to just forget about it for a while. i procceded to flirt wit her and make her laugh and she reacted real positively about it, but then she declined my date offer because she's not feeling all that well.
my question is tho, did i do the right thing by askin her out when she's down? would she have gone out anyway if she was headover heels for me even tho she feels like crap?
how would u guys cheer up depressed girls? or should i not make it my concern and leave her alone for a while?
I didn't even read your post, but honestly, three letters:

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simple, you do NOT talk to her about her problem.

guess what, when you spend 2 hours talking about a problem to a girl, that's at least 3 hours she will spend thinking about it (1 more hour at the very minimum having afterthoughts).

you talk about fun things, and steer the fvck away from whatever is bumming her out.


then again, i probably wouldn't care, cause when you're in the same situation, that girl most likely won't do **** for you
 

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F0ck it dude !! You need to help this girl.

alot of us know what could happen and if what we predict is true and this girl walks on you, thats experience, if she loves you for your help and sticks around it will bring you and this girl closer.

I'm starting to realize AFC's need to be AFC's in order to learn how to hurt and be strong, i'm not saying she will leave you high and dry, but dude, if you feel like helping her then do it...what ever happens next sosuave will be here, not to tell you "I told you so" but to figure how to deal with what happens next
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Question of the day: Why would you even want to hang out with this chick if she's a depressed mess??? Its a little ironic to me that your signature says "girls r crazy," yet you always gravitate towards them....hmmmm!!!! Don't be a martyr to her, unless you enjoy being a human punching bag.

But I've been here long enough to know that you won't stop talking to her, so as the others have said, keep everything super casual and fun. Instead of being her shoulder to cry on, be the guy that makes her forget about her problems, if it doesn't work, it doesn't work.

And if you can't realize that its NOT a good time to ask a chick out when she's incredibly depressed over some serious family stuff, then you need a brain examination ASAP.


I'll also warn you not to get too involved with this chick's issues, even as a friend because her mental instablity will eventually seep into your life and make you a depressed sack of **** too!!




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