"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do these cities rank when it comes to women

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I'm a black male that acts normal/white according to a lot of people, and I am looking for a city to move to after graduating college. I need a progressive city because I like white girls and I'm black lol. The cities in bold are where I am deeply considering.

Visited cities
Washington D.C.-really large metro area with a lot of opportunity, but roosh dogs on it a lot.

NYC- largest city in the country, but expensive and has a workaholic culture

Florida- It is hot which I like, but people **** about it a lot.

Memphis- Parents live there, gf goes to school near there, easier for me to get a job because it is in state, and closer to the west. However, it is not progressive at all.

Nashville- Grew up there and is pretty much a good city for me, but I kind of want to get away from my home roots.

Chicago- Probably the best city I have visited on this list, but it gets too cold lol. I really do not like winter at all.

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Houston- I love that it is flat, big, and hot. However, is it progressive since it's in texas

Austin- Smaller but more progressive than Houston. This is one of my top choices.

Denver- I probably do not need to explain this city, but I have never been.

Oklahoma City- I really don't know much about it, but it isn't too far from Memphis.

Phoenix- Hot and a rising city, but it is really far and idk if it is republican or not.

Every state on the west coast- Really self explanatory and my top choice. However, it is the farthest, most expensive, and how will I get a job there? Appears to be an unreachable goal at the moment.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Seems like Chicago or Cali. I live in Chicago......winters do suck, but once summer goes it likes a fire under the city it transforms over night. You learn to appreciate the nice summer days.
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
Phoenix- Hot and a rising city, but it is really far and idk if it is republican or not.
Phoenix generally favors republican but it's kind of split, like 60/40. In all the good parts of maricopa county, you rarely see a black person though. You would definitely stand out. Very little racism here, I can't recall the last time I heard a racial slur said out in public.
 

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You can't go wrong with San Diego or Austin. Austin is probably better due to cost
 

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I just think it's strange and not altogether wise that you're letting people on the internet's opinion on the women in a city dictate your choice in where you are going to start building a life and career... most of whom are white.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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gravityeyelids said:
I just think it's strange and not altogether wise that you're letting people on the internet's opinion on the women in a city dictate your choice in where you are going to start building a life and career... most of whom are white.
Not really, I have other opinions and I will ultimately choose what city that I feel is best for me.
 

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gravityeyelids said:
I just think it's strange and not altogether wise that you're letting people on the internet's opinion on the women in a city dictate your choice in where you are going to start building a life and career... most of whom are white.
Not necessarily. I live in Man Jose and the quality of life sucks here cause it's expensive and the women are ugly as fug not to mention its mostly FOB guys out here.

OP should go to San Diego. Those white and Hispanic girls down there love black guys, and plenty of opportunities too. I myself would move there but I have a really stable job here.

Just avoid Houston - trash city.
 

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SF really didnt seem that bad when I visited, i mean were talking about international cities with millions of people guys I think youre overgeneralizing juuust a bit. Of course not everywhere is NYC or LA but theyre still huge global cities, try living in a small town or city (200k or less) and compare that.
 

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Oregon has BOMB women, but they all go to UO. Seattle is good, less of a sausagefest than Cali
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Of the cities you listed Houston is the best for women hands down. Got my undergrad from U of Houston... even back in the 80s mixed race couples were the norm when in college I dated women of all races and it was completely normal all over the city... no one even really notices. I can only imagine it's the same today.
 

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Im 25 and live on Long Island im in the same boat as you.. Im Black but i have 90% white friends and have been told that I "act white".... I also am very lightskinned so that doesnt help lol.

But, With this in mind, Long Island is pretty good on the white girls being into black guys. I went to Montauk last weekend for MDW and had high success dancing and hooking up with a few White Chicks.

the rent out here is high but the girls are fire in the South shore and hamptons..
 

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Chicago is very liberal....lots of mixed couple of any race.....big black population, big city with tons to do
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
I'm a black male that acts normal/white according to a lot of people, and I am looking for a city to move to after graduating college. I need a progressive city because I like white girls and I'm black lol. The cities in bold are where I am deeply considering.

Visited cities
Washington D.C.-really large metro area with a lot of opportunity, but roosh dogs on it a lot.

NYC- largest city in the country, but expensive and has a workaholic culture

Florida- It is hot which I like, but people **** about it a lot.

Memphis- Parents live there, gf goes to school near there, easier for me to get a job because it is in state, and closer to the west. However, it is not progressive at all.

Nashville- Grew up there and is pretty much a good city for me, but I kind of want to get away from my home roots.

Chicago- Probably the best city I have visited on this list, but it gets too cold lol. I really do not like winter at all.

Not Visited

Houston- I love that it is flat, big, and hot. However, is it progressive since it's in texas

Austin- Smaller but more progressive than Houston. This is one of my top choices.

Denver- I probably do not need to explain this city, but I have never been.

Oklahoma City- I really don't know much about it, but it isn't too far from Memphis.

Phoenix- Hot and a rising city, but it is really far and idk if it is republican or not.

Every state on the west coast- Really self explanatory and my top choice. However, it is the farthest, most expensive, and how will I get a job there? Appears to be an unreachable goal at the moment.
Just checking, but what are you studying in college? Shouldn't the first part of this decision be based on the best area to capitalize on your education investment? Then of course just like you, I'd be asking where the best women are. But money first. Chicks are everywhere, and if you like Orientals, they are all over the North West and from what I understand they're really into black guys.
 

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I am an indian looking guy (look indian but act white) and my preference is for white girls. Are there any cities in the USA where just having an ethnic appearance of an Indian guy (facial features and skin tone) are not a major setback in the game?

I heard Indian looking men have it rough in NYC, Chicago, and San Fran.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I'm seeing very slighty more women with Indian and Asian men, More Eastern Asian men though
 

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I am an indian looking guy (look indian but act white) and my preference is for white girls. Are there any cities in the USA where just having an ethnic appearance of an Indian guy (facial features and skin tone) are not a major setback in the game?

I heard Indian looking men have it rough in NYC, Chicago, and San Fran.
You are putting white women on a pedestal my friend, no wonder you can't bag one.....you post reeks of insecurity. But you are a troll though right?
 

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ZTIME said:
Just checking, but what are you studying in college? Shouldn't the first part of this decision be based on the best area to capitalize on your education investment? Then of course just like you, I'd be asking where the best women are. But money first. Chicks are everywhere, and if you like Orientals, they are all over the North West and from what I understand they're really into black guys.
Money wise, best cities would be Memphis or Atlanta. My gf goes to school near Memphis, but if something happened than i would be ******. Ssme for Atlanta. Yes, girls do matter because if im not getting laid than that affects my mood.
 

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AbbyShake said:
I am an indian looking guy (look indian but act white) and my preference is for white girls. Are there any cities in the USA where just having an ethnic appearance of an Indian guy (facial features and skin tone) are not a major setback in the game?

I heard Indian looking men have it rough in NYC, Chicago, and San Fran.
Lol if you're Indian in SF you might as well quit.
 

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Austin , San Antonio , Phoenix ++++1

Seattle , Toronto.........hell no.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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