"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do the plates end?

kingwilliam

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I have 4 women that I am "dating" I guess you could say..... none of them know about the others. Its a very delicate game that Im playing to pull this off....

The problem is that 2 of the 4 are starting to push for me to take things to the next level and this has gotten me wondering what the goal is in "spinning plates". (I dont even like that term)

Anyway, if you are dating a girl and you realize that there is absolutely no LTR potential, should you immediately break it off?

I like hanging out with these girls... they are attractive.... the sex is wonderful.... but thats where it ends for me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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kingwilliam said:
I have 4 women that I am "dating" I guess you could say..... none of them know about the others. Its a very delicate game that Im playing to pull this off....

The problem is that 2 of the 4 are starting to push for me to take things to the next level and this has gotten me wondering what the goal is in "spinning plates". (I dont even like that term)

Anyway, if you are dating a girl and you realize that there is absolutely no LTR potential, should you immediately break it off?

I like hanging out with these girls... they are attractive.... the sex is wonderful.... but thats where it ends for me.
I always keep spinning till I stop calling. Or they stop calling. You have nothing to lose and if none of them are LTR material then why end anything?

If you stop spinning two of the plates you may seem more needy to the other two - keep your attention all over the place.

Just my opinion.
 

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I think the goal is what you want it to be. Is that to eventually find one thats worthy of being a LTR or just having fun? If its the former, than you keep spinning new plates until one stands out, if its the latter you keep spinning until they start to push for a relationship then move on to new plates.

I don't like the lying part though. I like to be up front with them; You're looking for the "right one" so you're being careful to get to know several persons, you've been burned before... If set up correctly, you put yourself in an incredible position of power. She is automatically in the position of trying to win you and prove that she's "the one" and you demonstrate value since you have several chicks dating you. why lie, there's no benefit.
 

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If you have no intentions of settling down...you have to drop the term plate spinning and pick up the term Team.

A team may go through several rosters over the years, but it's still the Lakers right? (Or Man U for my brits out there.) You have your starting players and you have your bench warmers and everything in between. You have your go to team members for certain things. At any point in the game a team member may want better options, long term contract, dismissal of other team players....you have to let that one become a free agent and start the draft process all over again for a new person to fill that role. As long as you want to play the game, you will always coach and manage your team.

That's just another way of looking at it, spinning plates always made think that one day, you can't spin them all and they start dropping, hitting the floor and shattering. Then they all start to fall down. It's a poor analogy for multiple girl management in my opinion.
 

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Oh i didn't answer your first question: how do the plates end?

Take a page from their book, LJBF them... that feels good don't it.:rockon:

LOL.

Take her out to dinner, say we need to talk (don't order and make sure she doesnt jump in and try to lead the conversation)... tell her that you're not feeling it and you think y'all should just be friends. Reach across the table, pat her hand tell her that there's someone out htere for her, get up and leave. Don't answer any text, or phone calls.

This will shake her to the core!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Warrior74 said:
If you have no intentions of settling down...you have to drop the term plate spinning and pick up the term Team.

A team may go through several rosters over the years, but it's still the Lakers right? (Or Man U for my brits out there.) You have your starting players and you have your bench warmers and everything in between. You have your go to team members for certain things. At any point in the game a team member may want better options, long term contract, dismissal of other team players....you have to let that one become a free agent and start the draft process all over again for a new person to fill that role. As long as you want to play the game, you will always coach and manage your team.

That's just another way of looking at it, spinning plates always made think that one day, you can't spin them all and they start dropping, hitting the floor and shattering. Then they all start to fall down. It's a poor analogy for multiple girl management in my opinion.
Great analogy!
 
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