How do the DJ's deal with getting dumped?

[lYlasTer]

After a year of sarging I finally found a girl worthy to be my girlfriend. We dated a month, and she dumped me last night. It really hurts. I just wanna stay in my room all day and do nothing. What do you guys do?

 

[aftershock]

Originally posted by lYlasTer
I just wanna stay in my room all day and do nothing. What do you guys do?

The opposite of what you're doing.

First of all, completely ignore her if she happens to contact you.

Then GET OUT THERE and live life!

 

[Slickster]

1. Accept the loss of a good friendship/relationship.

2. Accept the fact that it is okay to feel sad.

3. Take some time for yourself to mend.

4. Keep yourself busy and find new interests.

5. Always take steps to improve yourself.

6. Realize that your happiness can't be based on the presence
of any particular woman. It is your responsibility. Yours alone.

7. Get back out there and start DJing other women.

8. Around the time you find a new interesting woman you oddly
begin to realize that your ex gf wasn't the best thing for you
anyway. You finally close that door and are okay with it.

9. You call up your ex and make amends. You want all your ex's to always hold a special place in their heart for you. You begin to realize the importance of this step years down the road. She also has hot friends and you don't want any bad press.

10. Happily move on with your life.

 

[flexion_]

Move on. Thats all you can do...

 

[Dr Box]

Sorry to hear that bud,
My advice is to accept that she wasnt the one

Look at yourself and see what you can improve so the next one doesnt dump you. (I am a firm believer that unless the girl is a total headcase it is always something I did that made them break up with me)

Realise that there are heaps of other women in the world

As soon as you can get out and meet more women (not straight away as you prob arent in the mood and this will be conveyed to girls)

Good Luck

 

[Swoop]

Originally posted by lYlasTer
After a year of sarging I finally found a girl worthy to be my girlfriend. We dated a month, and she dumped me last night. It really hurts. I just wanna stay in my room all day and do nothing. What do you guys do?

Do a search in the tips Section, Jariel (poster) wrote a great piece on how to handle being dumped.

 

[Centaurion]

Originally posted by lYlasTer
What do you guys do?

I jack up a couple of beers, call up my mates and head out on town to get stupdily drunk. The next morning when I wake up next to a hot little plaything I picked up at a club, all my troubles seem to vanish.

 

[ShakeItOff]

Originally posted by LeviathanIYG
From the moment you come kicking and screaming into this world somewhere in the abyss of your mind you have the natural process of seduction stored away safely for when you hit puberty, But many years later when that glorious day arrives you **** your pants at the very thought of talking to an attractive girl.

Why? Why is this so?

Well open you eyes cant you see that dim light in the distance slowly drifting further and further away from you, that’s who you were meant to be floating away in a sea of confusion. Why? Why are you so confused? I’ll tell you why.

Inside every man there is a vicious battle raging. The battle between what you were raised to believe and your natural instincts and guess who’s winning? Social programming that’s who, advertising has us chasing cars, cloths eagerly awaiting the release of the new ipod so we can throw away half a weeks pay on it. We are so interested in hearing which celebrity is f**king which that we forget about our own sex lives. Porn is the new sex, MSN and IRC are the new ways to socialize, and every little greedy impulse that we are inspired to have can be quenched without leaving your house. No wonder socializing is becoming a lost art.

Half the movies we watch we see the chump come out on top and the winner losing. We are deluded into spending our lives searching for our soul mate our one true love so we can live happily ever after.

Then one day you find her your perfect girl the answer to your prayers, your very own dues ex machina. You shower her with compliments, kneel down in front of her and praise her for the queen that she is. Then what happens? Heartbreak she leaves you, but why?

In your wallowing dismay you stumble upon seduction sites and you find out all the answers you spend day after day, week after week, month after month reading the art of becoming a DJ, BUT GUESS WHAT?

Reading doesn’t make the DJ experience makes the DJ

So I don’t care if you have had your heart broken, if you’re a virgin, if you’re to fat or if you’re to skinny. Throw away all those destructive excuses right now and get out into the real world and SARGE.

This is your moment

This is your time to shine

Carpe Diem

Seize the day

Seize every day

Leviathan

Get out der and sarge

 

[backbreaker]

I haven't been broken up with very many times honestly, but the few times I have been broken up with, I made sure I asked why they broke up with me, or why they didn't feel the same way about me.. Not because I wanted them back, but to learn from my mistakes.. because theres no point in not learning if at all possible.

If a girl breaks up with you, it's usually because she has lost interest.

Now, why has she lost interest? I don't know, every situtation is different.

Move on, but don't be angry, don't be bitter... I'm usually still pretty cool with all of my ex's.. never know when they might come in handy for one reason or another... I'm pretty resourcesful.

 

[BrotherAP]

DJs don't get dumped! We're too awesome!

You must have decided that you didn't want her, and purposely tricked her into thinking she dumped you. Remember? Yeah you remember.

So, now that you got rid of her, it's time to get over her (not that you aren't already). Go do the things you would be doing if you had never met her - get out there, indulge in a bit of excess, explore your hobbies, oh and don't forget to go meet some ladies.

It's really true that "The best way to get over someone is to get under someone." It's advice my AFC-ass wouldn't believe, at first, the first time I got dumped. But when my ex called me while I was kissing somebody else, I couldn't care less. I was busy.

Look at it this way - getting dumped sucks, but it's part of life. It may seem like a big deal, but it will blow by just like anything else. In the meantime, try and keep yourself distracted so you don't care.

Oh, and if she starts sniffing around anytime within the next few weeks, she's just checking up on you. It doesn't mean that she wants to get back together - and neither should you. If you give her that impression, not only will you scare her off, you'll feel like the first day you two broke up all over again.

Oh, and one more thing... if you can think of any girls who you noticed who just a few days ago were off limits, well... have fun.

 

[lets_do_this]

I'm no DJ by any means... But how exactly did you get dumped?

I never met a girl that I actually fell for, so I don't know the feeling.

Besides, there are alot of other cute girls out there. What makes her so special?

Oh, and about me? How do I handle it?

"Ok, NEXT!"

 

[MightyMate]

Just drink some %, have fun with friends and have sex with many girls. After some time you will be ready to find new gf. Now just enjoy life. Btw month is not much..

 

[Gonzalo]

Eventually, in your mind you really have to KNOW that she made a mistake by dumping you, because you're simply the best there is. Then you will be really free.

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

Some thoughts....

> I sense lack of interest through her waivering in my plans, disinterest in sex, and lack of enthusiasm or poor attitudes. I nip it in the bud then.

> I guage it based on 'my' happiness. A disinterested girl or girl who will soon dump you or a relationship that has run it's course will not make you happy. Maybe you're enamored with her because she's so "beautiful, hot, an hb10" etc, but if you live in reality...you see it coming.

> Keep communication lines open at all time.

> Let her know and understand yourself that you're involved in relationship for what they bring to your life, NOT for what they suck out of it. So if it becomes MORE work than pleasure, you leave before she does.


You don't have to be some "DJ" to be astute and intelligent enough to know when a relationship is going south.


Lastly...cut off all ties. That was your past. This is your future. Move on. She's out. None of this half-arse shyt of being "friends." Friends are people who have similar interests and spend time and inquire how you're doing regularly, they offer to do things and attend funerals, and birthdays, and special events. An X of some kind will retain you as a friend as a security blanket, or for her own moral fiber.



A-Unit

 

[organizedconfusion]

call me childish and egotisitcal but i usually get them "back"
through good behavior just to dump THEM :crackup:
makes me feel better
what can i say? i like being a jerk

 

[NewMan]

We dated a month

you dated a month.

you should not be so damaged by being dumped after a month.

A DJ does not get emotionaly wrapped up in a woman after a month.

check yourself. You are getting way to far ahead fo yourself.

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Go to a strip club

I did this once. I was drained of my manhood from this b1tch - I then took it upon myself to get some of my dude friends and go to a strip club. After a couple of naked ass and titties jiggling in front of me, I got my manhood back and was already talking to a couple of other hos at nearby bars.