"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How do the below-average-looking guys do it?

ilikeburritos

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Ok I'll just be honest here, I've always suffered from low self esteem regarding my looks (particularly my facial features which we humans unfortunately do not have control over). I do happen to have a very fit and toned body, which I am proud of and confident in my body...however I can't just walk around with my shirt off at the coffee shop. I do my best with what I have to work with, but am just looking for an outside point of view to put this into perspective.

I am really just looking for some feedback on if you would call this below avg, or average perhaps at best? Thank you, and please be honest.

Picture from my good side: http://i4.tinypic.com/82xzza9.jpg

Straight on pic, showcasing my large and crooked nose: http://i8.tinypic.com/6okyusw.jpg
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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jt the azn

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hes not bad looking at all. looks dont matter as much for guys. to women, looks matter a lot because guys judge based mostly on looks.
 

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jt the azn,

I think I edited my post after you replied, I originally posted saying it was not me but then realized how stupid that was...it is me in the pic
 

Gangster Of Love

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Dude you are average to above average. Make sure you smile enough, as that second picture gives you a hard look, and that of a not too friendly guy; the one smiling you look very normal and friendly; your looks by themselves won't have a negative effect, and while working on your body language and style, you can actually use them to your advantage.
 

Crazy Asian

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is it just me, or can u guys not tell if other guys are good looking or not.

if you can, i'm pretty sure that's a sign that ur gay ;)
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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DismantleRepair

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With a bit of effort you could definitely be in the upper half. What do you look like if you grow your hair? I think it'd be useful for framing your face. Also, your eyebrows almost blend in with your skin tone - I would try go make them more defined to draw focus to your eyes (but I would have no idea about how to do this).
 

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You look like Ed Herman from the Ultimate Fighter. He ran around saying how good he was and how good looking he was and people believed him haha so with the right attitude I'm sure you'll be fine buddy just focus more on your game.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Your problem: not your facial features.

Just lose the "deer in the headlight" look (work on your eyes expression, confident and detached), put on a "skin tight" shirt if you have a fit body, get a tan (even though it might be hard if you are naturally redhead), chin up, and when you go out, forget completely about how you look, be totally "look unconscious" and concentrate on PEOPLE, not on yourself. Women hate self-centered men.
If you hadn't told about it, I wouldn't have noticed the nose thing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Alkali

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Crazy Asian said:
is it just me, or can u guys not tell if other guys are good looking or not.

if you can, i'm pretty sure that's a sign that ur gay ;)
You're gay for thinking that lol
 

comic_relief

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If you look at my pictures you will see that I am well below in the looks spectrum and I manage to get girls.

You look better than I do. You should do great with girls.

comic_relief
 

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comic_relief said:
If you look at my pictures you will see that I am well below in the looks spectrum and I manage to get girls.

You look better than I do. You should do great with girls.

comic_relief
u manage to get a gf who is a 1 outta 10, you are a horrible example of what players should strive to be
 

Snow Plowman

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Don't use your looks as a way to hold you back. Accept everything that you have and just focus on improving your self with women. Plain and simple. As of right now don't even think about how you look because either way it doesn't matter.

You can dwell on it and get no where or you can just practice gaming and change your life and your whole outlook of life.

With that said if you up your style you can surely get better results as you'd look "cooler".

I'm seeing the rockstar look. You know the leather jacket, shades, bad boy/edgy look. I happen to find a pic of a guy who I think looks similar to you who is dressed pretty good.

http://www.okgo.net/images/image_store.jpg

Seriously a chick not being attracted because of how you look? Well if you don't have any game it would be a problem but just practice and work on it. At the end of the day what do you have to lose.

You either don't do anything and don't get girls

or

You be proactive about it and just work on what you can control (Getting Superb Social skills)

I honestly don't think you look bad at all and if you were to really add some style to your wardrobe you'd be better off and it would be easier to game.
 

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comic_relief said:
If you look at my pictures you will see that I am well below in the looks spectrum and I manage to get girls.

You look better than I do. You should do great with girls.

comic_relief
where's your pic? :p
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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