how do stop your friends from ****blocking you?

[CostaDeSol]

2 incidences happened recently that put me in situation that i wasn't prepared for:

1. myself, a friend, and an hb were hanging out in my room after a small meet up with other friends. I had hosted a meetup and everyone had left except the three of us. my friend doesn't smoke but the hb and I do. I offered to smoke with her and she said yes. She laid back on my bed and i figured she wanted to chill out with me, but my friend didn't leave. He just kept talking and talking to her. she ends up leaving after a little while. later on i found out he was inviting her to his place to drink. I never found out if they hooked up or not.

2. on another occasion, VERY similarly, myself, a different friend, and another hb were hanging out in my kitchen after a small meet up with other friends. I had hosted a meetup and everyone had left except the three of us. I offered them a drink and both said yes. we didn't drink very much, but again, my friend wouldn't leave. He just kept talking and talking to her. she ends up leaving after a while. After she leaves, he tells me how much he wants to fnck her.


I feel like on both occasions, my friends were putting up a fight with me to make sure i didn't fnck the hb's. It was as if they were ****blocking me. I don't want this to happen again.

How would you guys handle these situations. do you just pull your friend in to another room and tell them to leave?

 

[CostaDeSol]

how do you*

 

[floydb25]

This is why it's best to fly solo. When it comes to women - your "friends" are your competition; it's every man for himself. And they WILL turn on you in an instant. In most cases, it becomes one big ****-swinging contest of who's better than who.

Stop inviting your "friends" over when you do with women, because as you can see, they're all trying to get with them. And what you describe is really how it is. They will also try to make you look bad, dissuade you from succeeding, tear you down, etc if they sense you are getting them and they're not. Or if they're focusing on you and not them. Just wait until you become a threat to these "friends".

As you can see, they're not helping you with ****. So why bother with 'em? They're trying to get these girls away from you - AFTER you invite them - but won't do the same for you. Quite the opposite. Like you say, they don't leave when it's just you and her, and are even using YOUR place and set up to try and get with them. They're acting purely out of their own selfish interests - with no regards for yours.

But this is exactly how it is. People won't respect your boundaries and interests, or look out for you - they'll try to get anything they can, any way they can, and will trample over and disregard you to get it. They don't want YOU to get any of these womenn - they want them all for themselves. And they'll continue staying around and not leaving until you put an end to it. And I'm pretty sure such a set up is working out quite well in their favor.

This is also why you must be assertive, set boundaries, and go for what you want, as well. Don't just allow this **** to happen (or continue). Don't be the easy-going, fairweather guy who never gets **** - AFTER inviting girls to his OWN house - because his friends are selfish fags. F that.

Always gotta look out for you, because as you can see - that's what everyone else is doing. They will not just "leave" or let you be alone with these women - because THEY want them. You can also bet your ass that they don't want anyone else to have them, either - even if they can't get them. Either way, you lose.

Think about it... they stick around, trying to get with these women until they (women) finally leave. What do you get out of it? Nothing. You're just "there". A stepping stone, really. Even if you're just there, hanging out - you're of no threat to them. This is all good, 'cause no one gets ****. But they still tried - for themselves.

Don't assume that these "friends" would be sticking around if there were no girls involved, either. In many instances, you'll be the one attracting them - and they'll be the ones hanging around, trying to get with them - or preventing YOU from getting with them. They still, always want to "hang around" when girls are involved, and you'll have more "friends" than ever before as a result. Experienced this a LOT. It's definitely dog-eat-dog out there.

If it doesn't benefit them in some way - most people will NOT hang around, or be your "friend". You can bet that this wouldn't be happening if the tables were turned, either. They'd be going straight for the women, taking them to an isolated area, into their room, etc. Maybe even kicking you out after a while. Of course, they can't do this in YOUR house, so they "hang out" with you and the girl instead.

Don't just stand back idlely (?) while everyone else goes for the action, and tries to secure their interests, or be prepared to never get ****.

 

[CostaDeSol]

You can bet that this wouldn't be happening if the tables were turned, either. They'd be going straight for the women, taking them to an isolated area, into their room, etc. Maybe even kicking you out after a while. Of course, they can't do this in YOUR house, so they "hang out" with you and the girl instead.

Don't just stand back idlely (?) while everyone else goes for the action, and tries to secure their interests, or be prepared to never get ****.

to be honest, i wasn't thinking about sealing the deal with them on those occasions, because they were hb 6's, and at the moment my focus was on my other plates who were hb 8's. also, this happened during some of the busiest weeks i had at work so the last thing i could think about was making a move on them.

but i think i should have been a bit more vigilant of what was going on so that i could control the situation and asked my friends to leave or something like that.

thanks for your post floydb25

 

[Demonpenz]

****blocking friends is an oxymoron