How do some people stick around and need advice for so long?

[joverby]

This site was great for me when I was first having troubles with my EX, it's why I came here. I was offered great advice during, and after my relationship.(I had a bad frame of mind after)

But I feel like I've got the entire message / theme to help me lead a more successful life with women. As a result, I've stopped coming here as often.

Everytime I come back and check it's the same things.
-Dating Site Threads
-Is she losing interest in me
-Help me get over her
-Give me a script to say to her
-Etc

I think it's great that all you vets stick around and keep handing out the same advice to all these new people. But what I don't get is how some people never learn(being here for years, asking the same sh1t)

I'm not a master or anything but I feel my training wheels are off and experience is going to be all I need from this point. Just wondering if anyone else feels this same way or has noticed it?

 

[joverby]

Just thinking about it, it probably wouldn't be so bad if some of these dudes actually came out with field reports but it seems they are stuck in a never-ending cycle of AFCisim.

 

[pdx1138]

There is definitely lots of "Tell me what to do...even though I already read it" going on.

 

[PapiChulo]

It is the lack of experience in general, as this teaches a lot better in praxis. Sometimes people come back because they have not been in certain situations before, especially anything concerning relationships. I ve not been married myself, nor have lived with any woman. When it does come to it, I ll be all over here asking questions.

 

[The LadyKiller]

It is the lack of experience in general, as this teaches a lot better in praxis. Sometimes people come back because they have not been in certain situations before, especially anything concerning relationships. I ve not been married myself, nor have lived with any woman. When it does come to it, I ll be all over here asking questions.

I agree with this. In dating, there are always new situations that come up and we need some advice on how to get through these new dating situations. That's why people will come back here asking questions.

 

[ken chang]

I come back here every once in a while to get a shot in the arm.
Sometimes, I tend to over-think a situation and I come here to remind myself that I'm a man and that I shouldn't sweat the small stuff.
I often imagine the DJ discussion forum to be an old medieval bar where vikings can share war stories.
I like reading about some of newbies' posts to remind me of how far I've gotten. When I read a post from a newbie I can go, "Hey, I used to be like that!". And I'm glad that I can laugh at my past now.
I like reading about the veterans' posts, too because I'm open minded and there will always be new things to learn.
Sometimes, though I do get disappointed when some guys here attack another guy's post & offer no creative solutions. They just attack for the sake of attacking.

 

[3countriesPlan]

I actually lurked on this website for awhile starting in 2001...used to love Senor Finger's posts back when I was a total noob.. anyways this forum does need veteran people around otherwise it will degenerate into some b1tch fest and the quality will go down so bad that noone will come anymore..

 

[SgtSplacker]

When you read about something it kind of refreshes that thing in your mind. I mean at my age I have been through all the scenarios here probably a couple times each. But it's easy to forget the occurances and the proper way to respond to it. Coming here keeps these things fresh increasing my ability to cope with curve balls more gracefully. I ponder other peoples situations also making myself aware of how I feel about certain things. Kinda helps maintain a healthy perspective on relationships in general. I mean face it having relations with women is a huge part of our lives, something we think about alot, practice is good. I have seen posts where people treat this site like some kind of "program" you are either using or not using. When you learned how to wash your hands were you on a "hand washing program" and getting a cold means it failed? No you wash your hands becasue thats the right thing to do, well this site rather than showing you how to wash your hands shows you how to handle women.