"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do keep your confidence up???

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How do you guys do it....... I find it realli realli hard especially when everyday...... you see yourself failing in the stuff that you do...... it gets kinda depressing........how do I maintain being confident over a long period of time even though you fail in things that you do??? (eg like you're trying to improve on sth.... but in this period of time... you're still **** at it)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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i am me

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Remember that everything you're feeling is all in your mind. Literally, you're only sad in your mind. Everything is from your perspective. Just get rid of negative thoughts whenever they enter your mind and don't think about your problems as much. Deep down, you know that everything will be alright so quit worrying about it.
 

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Abe Lincoln once said: "Most folks are as happy as they make their minds up to be." So, just try to think about the positive things in your life and how far you have come.

Some other good advice from Pook: "As you think, you shall become."
 
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Im too young to be sprung
to blessed to be stressed
my move too smooth
on top of that i dress to impress-fabolous

If you need extra boost of confident then work on your apparence so everytime you look in the mirror you will see a prize. Lift, dress, cologne, ect. You really shouldn't be depress ever! Listen to inspirin music or turn on the TV to Comedy whatever you do you shouldnt have time to be depress or regret.
 

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Accept that you are human and take everything as a learning experience. My confidence has also grown because I;m able to laugh at my own screw ups or at ppl who are being smallminded. Its funny
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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good advice. it's tough being confident all the time. i doubt anyone is. as y'all said, it's all in your head. turn those negatives off, and always be positive.
 

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Just realize that you aren't perfect. All humans make mistakes. But, the key to being a "DJ" is to view mistakes as a way to improve themself. They improve themself keeping that same confidence high level. :cool:
 

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Originally posted by .illadelph
good advice. it's tough being confident all the time. i doubt anyone is. as y'all said, it's all in your head. turn those negatives off, and always be positive.
I disagree. Confidence is not a switch you turn on when you need to, it's an attitude; a state of mind.

To the OP, my advice against failing is stop looking at it as failure. Change your perspective. When I started getting really active I'd take everything as good or bad. Unfortunatly, with such an attitude, you're prone to see more bad than good. Success doesn't mean getting the number or getting laid. I just enjoy picking up on signs, holding long eye contact, having a pleasant conversation... If she walks away or turns me down, oh well, NEXT! I didn't fail. It simply didn't work out. And it would be ridiculous of me to think that it's going to work out with every chick and her cousin.

Remember that you did your part. You approached and you tried to make something out of it. Success. The outcome is none-factor.
 

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i have my bad days. but you have to keep trying till one day your just confident by nature.
 
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